Dr. Tina Schermer-Sellers (LMFT,PhD)
In the area of sexuality, I have spent a career helping people discover the spiritual side of sexuality, and what culture has failed to teach them about their bodies, their hearts, their capacity for intimacy and their erotic potential.
I believe each person is created beloved and comes into this world hard wired for intimacy and pleasure. We see this in the nature of infants seeking the comfort of their mother's breast and arms. We even see this at the end of life in Alzheimers units ... people never stop seeking pleasure and deep human connection. Unfortunately most people grew up in homes that were silent and shame filled around sex. Their families and culture never taught them about the beauty and complexity within sexuality and relationships ... or the artful skillset needed to live fully into the sacred erotic experience of a deeply connected relationship.
In our fast paced culture with all that pulls marriages apart – where are couples taught the skills needed to cultivate loving passion over time? Have you been taught how to integrate your heart’s desire for connection, your body’s desire for pleasure and your soul’s desire for healing?
In addition to speaking nationally and internationally, teaching and counseling, I run 3 1/2 day couples intimacy retreats at a sensual resort in Seattle, introducing couples to the spiritual side of intimacy. I specialize in helping individuals and couples discover what they were created to know about their belovedness, their sexual desire, the spirituality of loving deeply, and the skills needed to do this with wild abandon.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
I grew up in a Swedish American home where bodies, loving and openness were as common as rain in the Northwest. Later in life however, I discovered that the openness of my family about bodies, sexuality and relationships was not common. What was common in most homes, especially those raised in conservative religious homes, was a great deal of silence, shame and ignorance about bodies, sexuality, and how to cultivate intimacy over time. As a teenager and young adult and later as a professor, I found myself serving people whose faith was very dear to them, but whose religious upbringing around sexuality, bodies and relationships had left them ashamed of their bodies and sexual desires ... what they had done and not done. What knowledge they had gathered, came from media's myths about women and men, relationships and sex. What made you valuable. What women wanted. What men wanted. Yet each person had very little awareness that the ideas they had gleaned from culture were not reality and did not translate well into real life relationships. Instead they struggled desperately to keep their partnerships together while being filled with frustration and unrealistic expectations.
This discovery led me on a journey to gather together the skills and knowledge that was missing for couples and to find the stories of sacred sexuality that had been hidden in ancient Jewish and Hebrew texts revealing the sacred erotic potential given to each person as a birth right. Sex, intimacy, erotic love was meant for so much more. This is what people had been longing for.
I share these skills and knowledge in my blog, writing, books and talks. In the couples intimacy retreat, I have the opportunity to not only give the knowledge, but also give couples the experience of sacred erotic intimacy. It changes relationships forever.
Dr. Tina Schermer-Sellers
Dr. Tina Schermer-Sellers
Over $120 per session