Dr Elvira Aletta - Author, Marriage/Couples Counselor, Psychologist, Speaker/Presenter - Amherst, NY
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Dr Elvira Aletta (PhD)


Do you find yourself at a crossroads not knowing which direction to take? Are you frightened that the old definitions of who you are just don't work anymore? Maybe you are miserable and confused about where you’ve wound up in your work or relationship?

Suddenly you feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you. The life you knew may be in pieces. You’ve discovered your husband is having an affair and it’s hit you like a baseball bat to the stomach. Your children are all grown and the role you loved so much is now redundant. You crave a good steady relationship but all you can find are tired hookups. Throughout it all you ask yourself, what is wrong with me?!

Nothing is wrong with you.

I’m Dr Aletta, psychologist, writer, speaker and founder of Explore What’s Next. It is my passion to reach out a hand when you've found yourself lost in an emotional black forrest. Together we can discover that you really do have the tools and resources within to regain solid ground. Out of the crisis can come growth, self-discovery, goodness and strength. Through my writing and my counseling practice, Explore What’s Next, I find deep satisfaction in helping you find your joy again, from the inside out.

I’ve been around long enough to know how awful it feels when stressful life events, disappointments and responsibilities overwhelm our dreams. My life experiences offered me the chance to understand firsthand what it’s like to hurt, physically and emotionally. As a kid, and throughout my life, I've had anxiety, panic attacks, and the occasional bout of depression. I thought I was weak and my self-esteem suffered for it. Later I found out both conditions run in my family. Hm, could somebody have told me sooner?

Then, in my twenties, I was diagnosed with a rare kidney disease that relapsed throughout my adulthood. Often the treatment could be just as nasty as the disease. Ten years later I was diagnosed with scleroderma, a chronic connective tissue disease.

Despite these and other adventures, I have an optimistic outlook that I attribute to a resilient temperament, an abiding spirituality, the right therapy at the right time (Thank God!) and a supportive, loving family.

Today I enjoy focusing on my private practice clients, writing, speaking and Explore What’s Next. A Clinical Psychologist licensed in New York State, married for over 25 years and mom to two awesome teens. When I need to get away from it all I run off to the barn where I keep my horse, a Paint mare, Annie, or throw the ball in the backyard with my SPCA rescue dog, Keeko.

I absolutely love the rewards and challenges of helping people regain the reins of their lives so that they can get back to enjoying the ride instead of dreading it. Click here and set up your free 30 minute consultation right away.

With warmest regards,

Dr. Aletta

The Reason I Became A Helping Professional

I created my psychotherapy/life coaching practice, Explore What's Next, because there are times in our lives when we could use a good therapist but a good therapist can be hard to find. Explore What’s Next therapists are all kind, qualified and easy to talk to. I have created a comfortable emotionally safe place for you in a style that is compassionate, direct, and non-judgmental.

I choose therapists who provide a range of services expertly: psychotherapy and counseling for women and men, adolescents, therapy for couples and families. Life coaching services are available for anyone in transition or feeling stuck in their career, as well as consultation if you are thinking of starting a business or the one you have needs a fresh look.

Explore What’s Next is a 21st century, global psychotherapy practice! We are not limited by geography. E-sessions via Skype are available on request. I have clients in every continent (including Antartica, no lie!)

An initial 30 minute consultation is offered at no charge by telephone, Skype or in the office.
Explore What’s Next is customized to our clients’ individual needs to provide relief from emotional pain with effective, practical and long lasting results. EWN therapists have extensive training in CBT, DBT, psychodynamic psychotherapy, family systems, supportive and solution focused therapy, hypnosis and neuro-feedback.

Mostly we are terrific listeners with awesome therapy skills who want to help. Contact us today!


Dr Elvira Aletta

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Spiritual, but no affiliation

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Dr Elvira Aletta

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Dr Elvira Aletta

Quick Stats



Time in Practice:

25 years +

I practice in:

All areas, please inquire

Additional Expertise:

Marriage/Couples Counselor



I offer my services:

At my office


By Email

Via Skype

Other, please inquire

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Licence information:

Expiration 3/31/14
Number 9478-1

Articles by Dr Elvira Aletta
break up

5 Ways To Leave Your Lover

Why do we take him back more times than is good for our self-worth? How can we finally tell him no?

Unhappy Woman

Am I Depressed or Just Surrounded by #%@holes?

Depressed? Take a good hard look at how your lover, friend, boss, is treating you.

8 Steps To Strengthen Your Marriage After An Affair

An affair will hurt a marriage but it also has the potential to make it even stronger!

Working Girl

3 Tips to Protect Your Relationship from an Online Affair

We do everything online, even have affairs! Here are a few tips to affair-proof your Internet use.

10 Tips To Survive The Holidays

How to cope when your family's latent dysfunction decides to pop up under the Christmas tree!

Dr Elvira Aletta

All Specialties

Anxiety Issues, Depression, Empowering Women, Life Management, Life Transitions