When You Must Leave
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When You Must Leave

I am often amazed that a woman who has been beaten will not or cannot leave the batterer.  Leaving would be the most instinctual and self protective thing to do.  In my clinical practice I’ve heard women make excuses for the batterer and talk about the times when it is really good between them.  Usually such times are referred to as the making up, honeymoon period.  From where I sit, this is a lull that lasts roughly six weeks between episodes.  When the beating stops there is overwhelming relief, and often a powerful high.  He is attentive, contrite a

Your Abusive Partner Insists On Having Sex After You Said "No"
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Your Abusive Partner Insists On Having Sex After You Said "No"

Forced sex, whether by a spouse or intimate partner with whom you also have consensual sex, is an act of aggression and violence. Some abusers expect or demand sex after they viciously beat or abuse their victims. Research indicates that 1 out of 7 married women are sexually assaulted by their husbands. Marital rape has been illegal in the United States since 1993.

India Rape Case: Unkind Love & Domestic Violence
Is it time we stop calling domestic abuse a women's issue?
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Why Rape & Domestic Violence Are A Man's Problem

When love takes an ugly turn, domestic abuse and violence against women rears its head. Reflecting on the one-year anniversary of India's brutal rape case, Charles J. Orlando explains that, to actually fix the problem, we must approach the problem from its source: the abusive men. He's ready for a change… will you join him?

Why Does She Stay?
Survival and fear is all some people have.
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Why Does She Stay?

Ever wonder why women and men in abusive relationships stay? The answer is complicated and involves fear, survival instincts, and the confusion victims feel while in an abusive relationship. Our expert, an abusive relationship survivor, explains.

Leaving an Abusive Relationship: Tools for the Journey
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Leaving an Abusive Relationship: Tools for the Journey

My last post about domestic violence discussed the importance of staying safe and realizing the impact technology can play in the lives of victims. But what if you have decided to leave?  It is not just the harrowing decision to leave that becomes challenging, but the emotional battlefield you find yourself on once the decision is made. The important kudo is that you know you must leave or you already have left. Making that decision is the most important self-nurturing decision you can make.