If You Love Your Daughter, You'll Make SURE She Knows These 7 Priceless Things

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7 Priceless Relationship Parenting Tips For Young Girls
Family, Love

She needs to know she'll make mistakes (and that mistakes are okay).

You’ve been wearing my shoes and stealing my mascara, lately. Though it feels like just yesterday I was searching for your favorite stuffed zebra so you could fall asleep. Enrique the Zebra lives in a box in your closet now and you’re turning 13 next month.

Of course, I knew these teen years were coming. I may have lost track of my own age, but I haven’t forgotten yours. If I’m truly honest, I feel excited for you. This is the time when you begin to discover and decide who you are and what you’re all about.

This won’t be a smooth ride, though, so get ready to hang on, and to steer, and use your brakes!

Know there will be tears and disappointments which, though painful, will make you a stronger and wiser person. There will also be friendships, experiences, and accomplishments that you will cherish for a lifetime. There will be laughter, silliness, and creations you’ll feel proud of.

Oh, and there will be people to fall in love with.

And you will fall in love, more than once, in the years to come.

So, before this happens, I thought I’d offer up a few hard-earned words of wisdom.

When it comes to relationships and love, always remember:

 

1. Never put yourself down.

When you are in a new relationship, or in the presence of someone you’d like to be in a relationship with, avoid pointing out personal insecurities or perceived flaws. Don’t hate on any part of yourself in front of them! Hold your head up, and use full eye-contact (no looking at the ground).

Reason being? If you want to attract someone who is respectful, you need to model what you expect from them. You do not expect to be talked down to or to have negative things said to you, or about you, right? So don’t talk down to, or speak negatively about yourself. Of course, as time goes by, you should be able to share some of your more vulnerable stuff within your relationship but not in the beginning. 

*Note: When you have insecurities (and everyone does) talk them out with friends or family, instead. 

 

Related: 10 Reasons Your Daughter Is The Greatest Gift You'll Ever Receive

 

2. Date someone you never thought you’d date.

Go on, do it! Even if it only proves you were right, they weren’t the one for you.

Spending time with someone really different than you means getting to view life (or at least a few experiences) from a new perspective. Going off your usual path helps you get to know yourself, which is what these years are all about! You can better discover who you are, and what you need, by spending time with different types of personalities and seeing how they impact you.

*Note: Every person you spend time with can teach you something. Keep your eyes open for what you can learn.

 

3. Don’t lose yourself.

This happens when you become more a reflection of your partner than of the person you were when you met (i.e., You take on their style in fashion. You like the same movies, music, and sports. You may use the same words and sayings). Some of this is natural but don’t forget to stay in tune with your own interests, too!

If you aren’t sure what your own interests are right now, make time to figure it out. Stay grounded in what makes you tick and what makes you, you! Anyone worth spending time with should be open to what you like and willing to spend time taking part in those things, as well. Relationships go both ways and should not be something that you simply go along with.

*Note: If you do feel like you’re losing yourself, don’t worry you can always get back to you.

 

4. Don’t ditch your friends.

Even if you’re in a relationship and you are so loved-up you want to spend every waking hour together, don’t forget to prioritize your own friendships. Because, quite simply, life is better when you’re surrounded by good people who get you. In order to keep yourself surrounded by good people who get you, you need to treat people well and be there for them. This means, making time for your friends, no matter what!

*Note: Good friends should lift each other up, support each other’s goals, and have each other’s best interests at heart. Be sure these are the kinds of friends you have. Otherwise, move on and find new ones.

 

5. Date an asshole.

I mean don’t, by any means, actively seek out a jerk to date, but if a person, with asshole tendencies, does end up in your life, it’s not the end of the world. Stay confident. Stay strong. And, do yourself a favor, don’t stay too long! 

Dating a dick actually provides a wonderful gift. Because, even if your trip to the dark side feels alluring and adventurous at times, you’ll come out of the Hunger Games knowing this: When it comes to long-term relationships, a good-hearted person who treats you well, is where it’s at! 

An unhealthy relationship will tear some layers off your confidence, though. So remember this: You’re gorgeous and smart and funny and… well, the list goes on and on. Anyone worthy of you knows this about you and is confident enough to make you feel gorgeous, smart, and funny in their presence. Anyone who tries to make you feel anything less than that isn’t worthy of your time.

*Note: Time heals the wounds that assholes inflict. I promise! This is another reason why number 4 is so important. 

 

6. The decision to have sex, or not, is always yours. 

Whether to have sex or not is always your choice. When is happens, how it happens, if it stops partway through – your choice. If you change your mind before it begins or you want something different to happen during – your choice.

You are in charge of your body, no matter what the situation is. Choose to be intimate with people who respect you and whom you are comfortable with. Sex, with the right person, can be a positive thing. Sex with someone who lacks respect for you… is the opposite.

7. Your mistakes don’t define you.

Now, remember, you will make mistakes when it comes to love, sex, and relationships. But know this: Those mistakes do not define who you are. Those WTF-was-I-thinking choices can actually help you grow. Sometimes, life can feel really hard, and scary, and you will feel lost at times. But, you are never alone.

*Note: Your mistakes don’t define you but they do help you better define what you want and need in the future.

 

 

 

This article was originally published at Huffington Post. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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