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Why High Self-Esteem Is The Secret To A Healthy Relationship

Love, Self

And how to know if you TRULY have it.

We always hear about how important it is to have a healthy self-esteem.

And of course, it's true.

Loving yourself is the key to happiness and healthy relationship.

Which makes perfect sense when you think about.

After all, if you can't love yourself, trust yourself, respect yourself or rely on yourself ... how can you expect to do it with someone else?

Love is a gift. You have to have it before you can give it to someone.

But how do we know we have a high self-esteem? It's not the sort of feeling that always comes with an identifying marker, like great skin or high blood pressure.

We asked a group of big-name Experts —  Rhoberta ShalerHelen Fisher, and Ross Rosenberg, along with Senior VP of Experts, Melanie Gorman— and they explained that the key to renewing your sense of self-love and self-appreciation is in knowing your barriers, as explained in the super helpful Expert video above.

Everyone with low self-esteem has barriers.

These are the barriers we created as we grew up. The feelings that we were never good enough, never worthy of love.

Look deep inside yourself: do you think you deserve love?

Of course, you really deserve it —  but do you believe that? 

If we can finally overcome those barriers, there is no telling where our life can take us. 

And sure, we can find love when our self-esteem is a work-in-progress, but it is when we finally feel a deep sense of worth that we are most able to give to another person. 

And relationships thrive when we are mutually able to give and receive the very best gifts we have within ourselves.

 

If you need help with your self-esteem, accepting love any other relationship problems, please visit the websites of Rhoberta Helen,and Ross directly. They’re here to help.

 

 

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