15 Ways Guys Say 'I Love You' Without Actually Saying It

Sometimes they don't say it, but they mean it.

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Men are mysterious creatures, at least to us ladies. They often claim to be the simpler breed, and that women are much more difficult to read. In some ways, this may be true, but it still leaves us scratching our heads. Are we missing something here?

You’re not crazy, I promise. While a woman may want her partner to figure out on his own why she’s mad at him, leaving him puzzled for the hundredth time (come on guys, you’ve gotta get the hang of it by now), men often don’t express their emotions at all. How on earth are we supposed to understand them if they don’t at least open up to us a little here and there?

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They aren’t all the same, of course. Men can be as effusive as women (okay, sometimes), and other times they clam up. And there is one topic that makes men go into silent mode more than any other. And that subject? Love, of course.

While many women complain that their partner doesn't open up, watch the video below for the real reasons men have trouble expressing their emotions:

Love makes fools of us all, men and women equally. However, women are more prone to expressing their feelings. It's just how we roll. We like to put it all on the table. Men, on the other hand, will sometimes show their love for you in non-verbal gestures. From the way he kisses you to how intently he listens to his posture (of all crazy things), your man is trying to tell you how much you mean to him without actually saying that precious four-letter little word.

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Ah yes, love is in the air, he just won’t say it outright. If you’ve truly found a man who can tell you that he loves you the moment he feels it, grab onto him and never let go because he’s a keeper.

But if you’re like the rest of us and are in a relationship where your man seems to be holding back from saying it just yet, you’re not alone. He’s going to need some time to warm up to the idea of confessing those important feelings, so be patient and look for the subtle signs that you’re headed in that direction.

But you don't need to keep on wondering, lost in the dark mire of "What does this mean? What did that mean?" when your man does something that feels significant. As ever, we are here to take care of you.

To that end, here's how guys say I love you without saying it. These are signs your guy is demonstrating his love for you, neatly arranged for your convenience. Enjoy, and go spread the love!

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1. He gives you passionate, long-lasting kisses.

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Who doesn't love an excellent, lengthy kiss? When he's continuously initiating these and you can feel the passion each time he does, it is clear that he's more than just a little excited to be around you.

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2. His friends love you.

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If all his buddies are starting to warm up to you and truly seem to enjoy your company, it could be because they know how happy you're making their friend — thus making them start to find you as awesome as he does.

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3. He moves in close to you.

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You know how it's unnerving when somebody you're not interested in gets close to you? It's the complete opposite when someone you adore tends to be closer in distance than he is to other people.

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4. He smiles after kissing you.

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Sure, you can have a little sweet smile after kissing someone whose company you enjoy, but do you ever just feel like positively beaming when it's someone you love? If you catch him grinning after your kisses all the time, it's a great sign that he truly enjoys your company.

5. He listens intently.

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While he might not be saying much when it comes to your relationship and his feelings about it, the fact that he listens closely when you're talking is incredibly significant. He may lean in closer when you're discussing important topics or nod when you say something poignant, showing how much your words mean to him.

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6. He has upright posture in your presence.

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Most of us tend to slouch and have poorer posture than we should. However, if you're trying to impress the person you care about most and want him or her to be most attracted to you, you're going to stand or sit straight up.

7. He squeezes your hand.

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I once had a relationship with a guy who loved holding my hand and would occasionally squeeze it tightly when we were cuddling or out with friends, but hated any other kind of cutesy couple-like act. I always wondered why he was so opposed, but then I realized that every time he squeezed my hand, he was trying to say, "I love you" in a quiet, simple way.

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8. He calls or texts you for no reason.

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Not all people do this when in love, so don't take it personally if he doesn't. That said, it's a sign that he feels comfortable with you in non-romantic situations as well as the obvious ones, and that he's thinking of you throughout the day.

9. He sticks around.

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Does he like to do activities together for no reason? For example, rather than just wanting to meet up at a dinner party, he'd rather go grocery shopping with you beforehand so the two of you can make a dish to bring together. Simply doing household things shows an interest in being closer than just casual daters or sex partners.

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10. He maintains eye contact.

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When you're at a bar with friends, does he glance across the room just to make eye contact briefly and smile at one another? This indicates how, even when you two are doing different things, he still wants you to be aware of how much he cares.

11. He plays with his hair.

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When people are nervous, they tend to run their fingers through their hair more often than normal. Does he do this when the pair of you are in close proximity to one another and it’s a romantic moment? If so, it could show that he wants to say something intimate but can't find the words.

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12. He mirrors your behavior.

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Does he tend to take bites of his food at the same time as you or do other things similarly? He could be displaying isopraxism, the matching or behaviors that couples tend to do when becoming closer together.

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13. He gives you meaningful gifts.

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When I say 'meaningful,' I don't mean 'expensive'; I mean that he spends effort and puts serious thought into finding you something that truly fits your personality to a T. I had one guy give me three pairs of socks: one with a crazy cute pattern, one specifically for boots and one for high heels. The week prior, I had gotten a blister on my foot due to not having thick enough socks for a pair of boots I had just purchased, so it was super sweet and a clear indication of his listening skills that he remembered.

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14. You make him laugh.

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Does he find you funny and can't help but giggle when you do something silly? As odd as it sounds, the more often he laughs and finds you hilarious, the more serious the level of interest and excitement surrounding your relationship is.

15. He touches you spontaneously.

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When you're in a public place, does he put his fingers on your back to keep you closeby? Does he hold your hand atop yours while you two are in a restaurant? Random closeness via touching shows that he wants to maintain physical contact, even when it's not sexual.

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