Desiree Hartsock's Open Letter To New 'Bachelorette' Andi Dorfman

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Bachelorette Desiree Hartsock, Andi Dorfman
Exclusive! Former 'Bachelorette' Des Hartsock trades inside knowledge with her heir, Andi Dorfman.

Dear Andi,

Congratulations on becoming the next Bachelorette! After what you dealt with and how you handled yourself, you truly deserve the honor of being introduced to 25 hunky men. They are lucky to get the chance to meet you so let's pray that they all know how to treat a lady.

Hopefully none of them have a girlfriend back home, they don't ask you into the fantasy suite the first night, they don't have a weird fetish that creeps you out, they don't have ulterior motives to become "The Bachelor" and that they are there for the "Right Reasons". That rap is still stuck in my head!

The first night is a blur so focus on the conversation and who puts you at ease right away. That is a great sign for enjoyable dates to come. One relationship can be hard to juggle, but working with more than five is a full time job that requires enormous attention to detail. It's important to keep the relationships separate and focus on your feelings in the moment with each guy. Can you picture him in your life back home? Would he get along with your family and friends? Do you share the same values and interests? Genuine or smooth talker?

All of the guys are going to love you, because well, you're a catch but don't let them fool you. Some may get caught up in the competition of it all, like men tend to do at times, and lose focus on what they're there for.  Just put on "face" so that they move along with a rose each week. I think you will be fine but there is always some drama each season that has to do with a guy/girl being different in the house than with the lead. Anyone remember "sparkle"?

Most of all, I hope that the man of your dreams is among the bunch, and that you have the best experience possible finding out who that is. It really is the best feeling to know that you will spend the rest of your life with your best friend, so I wish you all of the best in your journey and that you come out of it as a happy, engaged lady!

XOXO
Desiree

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