Does your relationship have the appropriate amount of crazy?
If you haven't seen Silver Linings Playbook (SLPB), I highly recommend you see it as soon as you're finished reading this. It's the story of a bipolar Bradley Cooper forming an unlikely relationship with a sex-addicted and seemingly autistic version of that girl from The Hunger Games (Jennifer Lawrence); hilarity (rather, exquisite pathos) ensues. I'm not sure if this is a proper sell job but it's the best work Cooper has done on screen to date and the best thing that Robert DeNiro has done in at least 10 years. In addition to those accolades, you couldn't take your eyes off Lawrence, especially when she created cringe-worthy moments that made The Office's Steve Carell seem eloquent and at ease. Enough with the kudos … what does crazy really mean in your relationship? 5 Love Lessons From 'Silver Linings Playbook'
In the seven years that I've worked for a magazine cum website about relationships I've learned roughly two things: 1) our gender-specific hormones are responsible for substantially more of our decision-making then we'd like to think and 2) most broads do not care for being called crazy — or being called broads, it turns out. I hate the gimmick of using a dictionary definition to start a point but let's say "crazy" means behavior characterized as illogical and unusual.
To separate "crazy" from relationships would be to remove everything exciting and novel and weird and worthwhile. While I have no idea what the acronym stands for, I'm relatively sure this is what the whole YOLO movement is about (I think it's Portugese).
Unfortunately, madcap moments are addictive. As illustrated by Eminem's entire library, the bio-chemical cocktail of volatile love is a potent syrup. Most of us mellow like a fine Yello as we pile on the years and pounds but we owe it to ourselves to remember the all or nothing feelings of our youth. A slight reckless impetuousness makes the whole thing worthwhile.
I know it's been said so much that it's become cliché, but we'd all be a lot happier if we could spend more time in the realm of Seal's "Crazy" and less in the range of "you make me so crazy, I could stab you while you sleep."
What can we do to return some of the good crazy in our lives? Say "yes" more often. Embrace your id. Have sex in places that could earn you a legal citation. Give thoughtful gifts for no reason. Play hooky from work. Sing Whitney Houston songs loudly and atonally to each other.
We only get one chance at life, have be weird, be fun. Holy crap, I think I know what YOLO means. You should find out too and enjoy every silver lining you can.
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