Levels of conflict stay pretty steady throughout a relationship.
Think you and your betrothed will stop fighting once you tie the knot? Think again. A new study suggests that married couples continue to argue throughout their relationship about as much as they did in the beginning.
Ohio State University's Claire Kamp Dush analyzed a survey of more than 2,000 married people over the course of 20 years and found that those who bickered frequently in the beginning argued about as often in the end, while those who enjoyed less conflict early on remained tranquil throughout. Win $550 Worth Of Luxury Goods From Henri Bendel!
But don't be discouraged by the results. The study also indicates that discord isn't dangerous. In fact, it can be downright healthy. Sure, fighting can make your blood boil, but it also helps couples communicate and settle their differences. And, since obstacles always appear along the way, those are important skills for couples to cultivate. 9 Things You SHOULD Say During A Fight — So You'll BOTH Win
Counterintuitive as it sounds, the study also says that a failure to fight may not be a sign of success. Actually, a complete lack of conflict indicates apathy or indifference which can cripple a couple when life-altering events occur. A death in the family or birth of a baby can create turmoil, and couples who haven't fought will be ill-equipped to deal with the discord.
Other fascinating findings reveal that marriages last longer when couples believe that they will, when decision-making is done together, and when husbands help with the housework. That's right, guys. Scrubbing the toilet or folding the laundry once in a while won't kill you. In fact, it might just save your marriage. Do You Have The Same Fight Over and Over?
When it comes to matrimonial peacekeeping, the best bet is balance. Try not to fight too rarely or too often, and always remember that makeup sex is just an apology away.
What has your experience been like with fighting in relationships?