I am a different person today and I need a change in our relation

“Dear Lana,
There are many new developments in my life that I wanted to share with you. For several days after our conversation I was feeling much better, however, I realized that I needed to say what I had to say to my husband for a long time. I wanted to talk with you about it first, and after our session I understood that I was ready. I couldn't hold it anymore.
I know that I don't love him anymore, and frankly, I don't think I ever did. I have grown to like him over the years, but I'm not in love with him and all his nagging, his negativity and his insecurities have been too much for me to handle. I told him straight out what I felt and he was of course shocked. I told him that I deeply care about him and I would be willing to go to your sessions with him or seek professional help of a marriage counselor if he was feeling it would serve him better. I'm still hopeful that we'll be able to stay connected in a positive manner for the sake of the kids, although I understand that he will not be willing to stay together because he doesn't believe in marriage without love.
Honestly, I'm not optimistic that staying together at this point would help our situation either. However, I feel that I have to give it a try at least even though I'm just "screaming" inside for independence. That is what I truly want. I'm just taking it a day at a timeas you tought me. It's not necessarily my husband, my friends or even a new lover that would make me happy at this point.
As we talked about the shift from co-dependency to independency to interdependency, I felt how much this was resonating with my personal shift. I think what happened over the years is my husband was taking care of a lot of things in my life all the time and I overgrew this way of living now. I need to do it myself to feel that I can. It's been a big issue for me. I know I'm capable of being independent and I just need to do it. The strangest thing is after feeling devastated, lost, confused, and really sorry for “doing this to my husband”, I finally feel GREAT inside.
I appreciate your assistance in helping me see the real issue behind my frustration and anger and understand what I really wanted! I now see that my need for relationships with other men outside of marriage was just a way to fulfill my desire for deeper connection, understanding and communication. Even though I had this longing, I never needed or truly allowed any sexual relationships outside of my marriage. That was not what I was looking for. I did not have an open intimate relationship at home, so I was always looking for understanding, companionship and feeling of camaraderie. That was what I was longing for and was able to find with others.
No one can or will make me happy, but myself!!! Thank you so much Lana. Whether I stay with my husband and work through our problems or not, the time will tell. But, I am a different person today and I need a change in our relationship, for certain.
After I became honest with myself during our session with you, I was able to communicate my need to complete the process in my family, I broke up with my “conversation partner”. It was his call. It was just the right thing to do at the moment. We both knew that marriage therapy would not be effective, if he would be in the picture. He is a great friend and he does not want to bear the responsibility for a broken marriage. He loves me and wishes for me to be happy. We both decided that we must move on and be open to the outcome that can best support everyone involved. I agreed, although I felt heart broken.
At the same time I know that I will be just fine because I feel like I am a much stronger person now. It's just hard on me because it's happening all at once. But it's for the best!
I will be present to all my feelings, trust my intuitive guidance and meditate just like you thought me. You have my permission to use any of our discussions in your publications without using my name. I hope it will help other people realize who they are and what they want as well.
I'll keep in touch, and definitely give you a call as I move forward.
Thanks again.