How to Guarantee a Second Date Every Time!

By Jennifer Anastasi, BounceBack Editorial Staff

You have no problem closing the deal on a first date, but it seems he or she never calls back. If your first-to-second date ratio is completely lopsided, you may need some help!  At BounceBack, we know how difficult it can be to re-enter the dating scene after a painful divorce or bitter relationship breakup, so we’ve come up with a few do’s and don’ts (for girls and for guys) to ensure first dates that are so successful, a second date is a sure thing! If you’re on a first date with someone you desperately want to hear from again, here are some fool-proof tips. Of course, if it’s the worst first date ever – just do the opposite. Happy Dating!

GIRLS:

DO: Be positive .   Keep the dialogue light and fun, and remind yourself that the conversation should be just like champagne -- bubbly, sparkly, and makes you feel good.

DON’T: Complain about your ex, your job, your relatives, the food…etc.  No one wants to be out with Debbie Downer.

DO: Leave your date wanting more.   When it comes to your fabulosity, don’t give away all the details on the first date. Give him a quick glimpse and a tempting peek into your world, so that he’ll want to get to know you better. Leaving him with a sense of mystery will likely lead to more dates.

DON’T: Be a narcissist.  Talking too much about you is a no-no.  Revealing too much information about your personal life on a first date can be overwhelming. Don’t compete with him by attempting to one-up every story he tells with a similar one that’s happened to you. Also, no texting, tweeting, or facebooking in front of your date. It will not make you look important or popular – just pretentious and rude. These first date faux-pas are big turn-offs.

DO: Let him know you’re interested with subtle signs.  For example, brushing his arm or hand while you’re speaking suggests you want to be close to him.

DON’T: Hang all over him.   He’ll most likely think you’re out for a one night stand, and not take you seriously.

DO: Show you’re genuinely interested in him by asking questions about his life, his work, his likes and dislikes.  Get him talking about himself.