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Lies Single Women Tell Themselves

Lies Single Women Tell Themselves
Love, Heartbreak

Speaking as a single woman, I know that there are times when I am in full “lie to myself” mode. It’s usually when my cat ignores me or I’m eating dinner alone in a restaurant.

I lie to myself most often, though, when any friend of mine finds herself a boyfriend. And the reason I lie to myself is to keep my sanity in full force. Otherwise, facing the facts about being single will terrify me to the bone and make me hide under the covers until someone comes to get me.

So what are these lies? Well, besides the “I haven’t gained that much weight” lie that I use every time I catch myself naked in front of a mirror, here are the doozies that I, and perhaps most every woman I know, tells herself about being single.

And considering almost 80% of women giving online dating a try are single, according to, perhaps we can all benefit from facing the truth.

Lies single women tell themselves

1- I don’t need a man to make me happy

Sometimes I do manage to convince myself that I don’t need a man to tell me that he loves me, to make love to me, to give me someone to look forward to seeing, but sometimes, when I’ve polished off a bottle of Merlot, I have to admit, I do need a man – a good man – to make me happy.

Okay so perhaps I’m not completely miserable without a man in my life, but I have to admit that, in the grand scheme of things, I do want a yang to my yin to make me happy. Or at least, happier.

Lies single women tell themselves

2- If they can’t accept me for me…

I spent so many years complaining that I would never change for anyone because if they plan on being with me, then they have to take the package the way it is.

After some careful thought though, I quickly learned how ridiculous this sounded. I change my personality for my boss, I change my personality for my parents, hell, I even change my personality for some of my friends. So what the hell am I thinking expecting a man to take me as I am?!?

When all is said and done, I have to learn to take criticism that is designed to help me as such and not spit in the face of help when it’s offered.

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