Don't Settle For Pleasure-less Sex
Make every sexual situation a pleasurable one with orgasm tips from a sexpert.
You've huffed. You've puffed. And dammit, you still can't get yourself off.
Well, screw that—literally. If an orgasm is proving to be too elusive for your liking, it might be time to buckle down, call in sick, turn off the phone, and try your hand (or vibrator) at these "Big O" tips provided by Clare Cavanah, sex educator and co-founder of adult toy shop Babeland.com (link NSFW).
Ladies, start your engines...
Getting in the Zone
With women, an orgasm often hinges on what's going on in our heads. Of course, what gets one woman into that preferred mental space may not work for another gal, so it's best to figure out what you need to feel your sexiest. Lemondrop: Women Feel Sexiest at Age 34
"Knowing what turns you on and keeps you turned on helps a lot," Cavanah says. "A good fantasy can play into what's happening in reality. Sexy talk, even just talking about what you are doing, can add a layer of hotness." Lemondrop: What Your Sexual Fantasies Say About You
"Put your phone away—far, far away. Also, banish all your stressful thoughts as much as possible. Be as fully present in the moment as you can be, and see what happens."
Talking to Your Lover About Orgasms
Oh, sure, you could fake your way through those sex sessions, but what fun is that? Great sex—with mind-blowing orgasms—calls for open and honest communication with your partner.
"It's always best to be honest and gentle about how your sex life is and to build on what really feels good, and avoid what has unsexy effects," says Cavanah. "Faking it will leave you feeling lonely!" Lemondrop: How to Tell Your Guy You've Been Faking That O
She suggests practicing your conversation beforehand and lots of positive feedback. Focus on what you like and want more of, and work with your lover to find the things that really make your toes curl.
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Written by Erin Donnelly for Lemondrop.
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