If your man is unwilling to fetch you a napkin while he's up at a dinner party, does that mean the relationship is doomed? If you feel too bashful to ask your partner for help is that an indication of a shaky union? Bad Relationships May Be Genetic
Anne Hill, a talk radio host, and blogger for Huffington Post thinks so. In fact, she'll go so far as to say the three most important words in a relationship are "while you're up." Yes. While you're up.
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Imagine that you are hosting a big family gathering, and after hours of preparation the food is finally served and you are sitting down ready to enjoy a delicious plate of food. Suddenly, you realize there is no butter on the table. Your spouse is getting up to get a clean fork for your daughter, who just dropped hers on the floor. You say to him, "While you're up, can you please bring out the butter?
Everything you need to know about your relationship is right there, in your tone as you ask the question, and in the way he responds. 6 Red Flag Phrases That Should Send You Running
Hill goes on to say that if your man bristles, scoffs, or acts in any way unhappy about doing this small, selfless favor then he's in the same category as her friend's philandering husband who's "spine stiffened" at the request. She also says to take a good look at how you say it, too. If you feel too needy asking or automatically annoyed, take note. 12 Relationship Red Flags
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We like this advice. We've often thought the foundation of a relationship lies in a person's behavior when they don't know they're being watched.
Inspired, we decided to add to the list. Here are four more examples we think should be indicators of trouble brewing beneath an otherwise carefree facade. Secret To A Good Relationship?