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Do You Fart In Front Of Your Guy?

Passing gas can be embarrassing or amusing, women report.

Your honey makes your toes curl, your palms sweat, your heart flutter, and your stomach churn... or was that the bean burrito you had for lunch?

In every relationship there comes a time when nature calls and you have to ask yourself, 'Am I comfortable enough around this person to let 'er rip?' Or maybe, like Carrie in that one episode, your sheet session is embarrassingly interrupted by an unexpected toot coming from—oh, dear God no—you.

You're not alone. According to a recent survey by CharcoCaps AntiGas products, 15 percent of adults have 'fessed up to farting during sex, while 72 percent say they've passed gas in front of someone else. So what if that "someone else" is your sexy new lover? Read on to see how real couples broke the breaking-wind barrier. 

Toot Survival Technique 1: Don't Ask, Don't Smell 

Gas may be a fact of life, but for some couples it's an issue best kept behind the bathroom door. Take Cynthia, who, even after 18 years of marriage, says that publicly passing gas is a no-go. Lemondrop: Peeing With the Door Open—How Intimate is *Too* Intimate?

"This is a major issue for my husband, who gets very upset if I pass gas in his presence," she says. "He finds it a vulgar romance killer. If the need arises, I am to leave the room, walk away if outdoors, or get out of bed and leave the bedroom. We were walking home from my birthday dinner and one kind of happened and he barely spoke to me for a day."

Cynthia's hubby isn't the only guy putting his foot down on flatulence. Scott, who has been with his girlfriend for close to two years, claims that they've never cut the cheese around one another.

"We talk about it and joke about it but I really make it a point not to," he says. "She says she wouldn't care and, to her credit, she probably wouldn't. Still, it's a line I don't want to cross. It represents something larger to me, in a way. I think of it as a reminder to always be respectful of her. Ask me again in 20 years and see if my streak is still alive." (Scott -- if you ever become single, call us.) Lemondrop: Newlywed Turns "Annoying" Marital Gripes Into Funny Tribute

Toot Survival Technique 2: Making Light of the Breeze

Holly, now married for three years, broke the farting barrier early on in her relationship. She tooted by accident, he laughed hysterically, they got over it. Now she and her husband have a light-hearted rule to help keep flatulence from ruining the romance: "No farting within an hour of wanting/planning/hoping to have sex."

Allie felt embarrassed the first time she inadvertently broke wind in front of her boyfriend, but now says, "Ultimately it is something that can make your relationship stronger, a funny joke you share together or something you are only comfortable doing in their presence. 

Toot Survival Technique 3: Fartloose and Fancy-Free 

Can you relate?

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Jadailha Single I'm a romantic failure
Can't Relate - Posted October 18, 2009

This is just sad, trashy, vulgar, and gross!! Okay, everyone has gas, fact of being human. An accident, okay, I can forgive. I just think that some things should be respected no matter how secure the relationship is!!

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Posted October 17, 2009

farting shouldn't be a deal breaker everyone farts even animals. never have I been in public where an obvious fart is heard and no one chuckles why? cause farts are just funny my bf rips em around me and we always laugh I did once it squeaked and he was glad I was comfortable enough to do it finally but of course we hold it in in public. cept if it's a silent smelly one we try to act like it's not there and keep from smirking. you try keeping a straight face seeing people sniff the air knowing who it was

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Posted October 9, 2009

I think farting in front of your partner is something that is bound to happen and by no means should be off-limit or kill the romance. It's a natural bodily function and if you're in a truly comfortable relationship with no fears about your partner in the end it always becomes something to laugh about and make into a joke. Anything else and perhaps you're with the wrong person or if the issue is with you then you need to examine what the real problem is.

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