12 Simple Tips For Relationship Bliss
Fairy-tale love is hard to find—here are some tips for keeping your relationship healthy and happy.
One of the most common questions we hear is, "How do we make our relationship work?" The answers are complicated, varied, and, after a while, can start to sound like muddled platitudes. But these commonplace sayings get repeated because they work. With this in mind, we pulled together 12 cliches that, in fact, reveal simple, tried-and-true advice for having a healthy, happy relationship. Read on and let us know what you think:
1. Mind your manners. "Please," "thank you" and "you're welcome," can go a long way in helping your partner remember that you respect and love him and don't take him for granted.
2. Variety is the spice of life. Studies have shown that dullness can lead to dissatisfaction with a relationship. Trying something new can be as simple as visiting an unfamiliar restaurant or as grand as a backpacking trip through Sri Lanka. Discoveries you make together will keep you feeling close. Video Advice: My Wife Won't Tell Me Her Fantasies
3. The couple that plays together, stays together. Find a sport or hobby that you both love (no, watching TV does not count) and make that a priority in your relationship. Camping, biking, building model trains... whatever it is, find something you enjoy doing together.
4. Fight right. In order to have productive arguments, keep these rules in mind. Don't call your spouse names. When things get really tough, take a break from the argument. Let the other person finish his/her sentences. Don't initiate a discussion when you're angry. 9 Things To Say During A Fight
5. I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine. No one likes demands (unless you're in a BDSM role play), but everyone can appreciate a compromise. If you want your lover to do something and you're not sure he'll be agreeable, the quickest way to avoid a confrontation is to sweeten the deal. For example: "Sure, I'll watch Monday Night Football if you take me to see the next movie of my choice."
6. Two heads are better than one. Being in a relationship basically means you've made a merger; you've not only joined assets but inherited the other's problems as well. Rather than looking at his problems as merely his own, tackle them together. For example, if he's gaining weight, rather than pushing him to diet on his own, enroll in an exercise program together. Fun And Free: The Exercise Date
7. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Maintain your own friendships and occasionally have a night out without your significant other. Doing things without your s.o. not only makes you miss him or her, it also keeps you sane. And, in case the relationship doesn't work out, you'll still have your friends.
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No, it's nothing like that, it's to do with the way men are programmed: they work like rubber bands.
Proffessor John Gray, who wrote "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", explains that because men are naturally more solitary, after a period of intimacy, he will feel the need to withdraw for a while, just to reestablish himself. when he comes back he'll be ready for even closer intimacy, but if he doesn't get the alone time he needs then he may feel trapped, or that he is "losing his sense of self".
Hope this helps, I really recomend reading"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"
I've read it and I think it's kinda crap.
We both do nice things for one another and we used to think of it as quid-pro-quo. And it worked for the first 4 years. Then one day I was sick and asking him to do something and he refused and I pointed out all the other things I did for him (quid-pro-quo) and he got sad and said that he likes thinking that I do things just for him, not with some ulterior motive. And I think it was then that we learned, while some bargaining is okay. We should always do things for one another without the expectation of quid-pro-quo and without ulterior motives. That's what we learned anyway.
I don't think #5 is the way to go. It works most of the time, but do you really want to be in a relationship where he is only being nice to you because of quid pro quo? A successful relationship requires us to be selfless on some levels. We shouldn't have to earn every ounce of kindness.
