Getting Your Guy To Talk About The Future

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Getting Your Guy To Talk About The Future
Advice from a guy on how to drop the "f-bomb" on your relationship.

It's the bane of every relationship. For the woman, bringing up "the future" can be quite risky. If done too soon, it can scare away a potential life partner. For the man, being expected to commit and show confidence in the success of the relationship can be just as scary. So how can two people who enjoy each other get through this potentially awkward and arduous event without sabotaging the chemistry? Having had this conversation a few times myself, I've taken the best strategies of women I've dated and listed them for your benefit.

It's the bane of every relationship. For the woman, bringing up "the future" can be quite risky. If done too soon, it can scare away a potential life partner. For the man, being expected to commit and show confidence in the success of the relationship can be just as scary. So how can two people who enjoy each other get through this potentially awkward and arduous event without sabotaging the chemistry? Having had this conversation a few times myself, I've taken the best strategies of women I've dated and listed them for your benefit.

Just the facts, ma'am

Guys can deal with facts. Logical, comfortable, predictable facts. When you start off by throwing in your life's dreams, desires and how he fits into them, he begins to wonder if he is capable of fulfilling those grand notions and gets a little panicked! Instead, start slow by talking about the facts. "We've been dating for a little over a year." "I've come to trust you a great deal." These are stated in simplistic ways and will lay out a blueprint that a man will gladly entertain thoughts about. Choose the things you want to highlight that will later build a case for long-term love, but state them simply and leave it at that for starters. The most difficult part of this for women is to refrain from drawing conclusions for these facts immediately.

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