Designing your relationships on purpose


This installment of our Designing Your Relationships series focuses on Life Purpose.

Let’s do a quick recap before we move on.

Your needs are legitimate and your job is to accurately identify, own and honor your needs, and ensure that your needs are met. Sometimes you can meet your own need(s) and other times you need someone else to change something so your need(s) can be met.

Values in contrast to needs are almost always internally related and cannot be met by another person or by external environments or events changing. This is an important distinction between needs and values.

Staying with the car trip analogy for a moment, your vision is the reason for your car trip; your life-purpose is the road or the roads you will take, and the vehicle you will travel in, to get where you are going; and your mission is being the driver of your car and being responsible for the condition of the vehicle you are driving.

About your life-purpose: Why are you here?
Everyone has a unique purpose. You create meaningful work and a fulfilling life when you live on purpose. When your life-purpose is clear, it guides your choices and helps you know where you are headed. Life purpose is the big why, the ultimate reason for living, and fills your life with meaning.

When you connect with your unique purpose, and live through the values that support that purpose, you will experience deep and profound personal satisfaction.

Your life-purpose is the expression of what you want to be and what you want to do in your life. It is your unique capacity to contribute in the mental, spiritual, physical and social areas of your life. Writing down your life-purpose statement will inspire you.

Let’s explore the elements of your Life-Purpose Statement:

You come to know the meaning of your life as you ask these questions and stay alert to their meaning.

  • Take a moment and recall as many people as you can whom you admire. They can be family, friends, celebrities, characters in books or films, people in history – anyone about whom there is something you like or value or some personality trait or attribute to which you aspire; and
  • Build a list of at least 10 people. Notice specifically what it is you relate or resonate to most significantly.

Do you know that you cannot see in others what is not inside yourself? What you observe, appreciate and admire in others are traits and parts of You!

Sometimes you don’t see those parts, which is why it is often helpful to do an exercise like this one.

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

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