Crafting your vision statement so you attract your ideal match


Creating your vision statement means clarifying where you are going in your life and spending time finding the exact words that accurately reflect your personal vision.

Remember, your vision taps into the deep core of who you are and what you are about. It reflects your personal world with the people who are important to you, the activities that touch your heart and make your spirit soar, and your hopes and dreams that esteem and affirm your best and most brilliant, passionate Self!

Your vision statement is your most accurate expression in words, of what you want your life and your love life to include.

Consider these seven questions:

  1. If you could wave a magic wand and create a life that includes anything and everything you ever wanted, what would your life include?
  2. If you could imagine your life, your personal world, exactly as you want it to be, how would it be?
  3. What activities do you love to do? What have you made a part of your life for as long as you can remember?
  4. What energizes you?
  5. What fills you with pride?
  6. What experiences warm your heart and touch your spirit?
  7. What things must be part of your world so that you can be your best self?

Crafting your vision statement

Creating a successful relationship requires a lot of self-examination. Your personal vision statement is a declaration of what you want to become in your life and in your relationship life. Your (written) vision statement describes how you want to design your life and your love life, what you want to accomplish, and how you want to be known, perceived and experienced by your partner.

Make sure your vision statement genuinely reflects your legitimate needs, values and your deepest desires. Don’t be afraid to let it be a big vision! You have more internal and external resources than you could possibly imagine!

All your dating efforts and a successful, long-term relationship requires courage, hard work and determination. Making your dreams come true requires that you be honest with yourself, let yourself imagine with sheer abandon and without limitations, and be committed to take deliberate and intentional action on your own behalf!

Use your vision statement regularly to remind you that the actions you take and experiences you have will support you to reach your desired goals -- and enjoy life as you are doing so!

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

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