Designing your love relationships with vision


Your love relationship is most fulfilling and satisfying when it is in alignment with your needs/values, vision, life purpose and mission.

We have explored Needs and Values. Now we are going to take a look at the Vision piece of your inner guidance system.

Remember, your inner guidance system is like Norton running in the background of your life and your relationship:

  • Needs and values; the external and internal structures of your life;
  • Vision; what you want your life to be;
  • Life purpose; your reason for being; and
  • Mission; the daily choices and behaviors that put into action living on purpose with vision driven by needs and values.

You create your life and your love life through your beliefs, intentions and the actions you take in the world. Imagine for a moment that you are taking a car trip. This journey includes three independent yet related elements: vision, life purpose and mission.

First, the reason for your trip is your vision. Vision is about where you will end up and what it is going to be like when you get there. It is the destination, in a sense.

Next, the road or roads you will take to get where you are going is your life purpose. There may be bumps in the road, or the road may have many detours.

Lastly, your mission is how you will drive your car and being responsible for the condition of the car you are driving. This translates to the daily actions you take, and the decisions and choices you make to make your vision real and viable.

Creating your vision means designing and clarifying where you are going in your life. The vision you hold for your life taps into the deep core of who you are and what you are about.

It reflects your personal world with the people who are important to you, the activities that touch your heart and make your spirit soar, and your hopes and dreams that esteem and affirm your best and most brilliant, passionate Self!

Your vision is driven by your realization of your uniqueness and the meaningful contribution you have the capacity to make.

Next time we’ll talk about creating your Vision Statement for your Life and your Love Life!

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

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