The Surprising Way To Make A Loving Connection


But it’s so easy to mistake the friendship that can grow between two people who worship in the same way, who care about the same things, and who are devoted to their families or community.

It may seem like a passionate, emotional bond when what has actually developed is just a deep friendship. He’ll tell everyone what a great woman you are, but he won’t be dreaming about you night after night or longing to hold you in his arms.

So if we can't win his heart by connecting with his mind, body or spirit... what do we do?

The Right Road: The Emotional Road (HEART)

Contrary to popular opinion, men are not averse to emotions. What puts them off is drama. There’s a big difference.

A man actually yearns for a woman who can help him feel his own feelings and therefore allow him to be himself. If you’re not in touch with your feelings, he won’t feel safe expressing his.

So here’s your action plan: The next time you start to feel something around a man, don’t second guess yourself. Don’t talk yourself out of your feelings or stop yourself from expressing how you really feel.

Let's say he acted moody and distant on a special date. Instead of letting it go or suppressing the emotion, you can tell him exactly what you're feeling. You can try something like this:

"I feel confused and worried about what's happening here. Is there something I should know?"

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Speak the truth without anger or drama. Just say what happened, what you felt, and what you feel. Don’t blame him or make him wrong. Remember, you don't know why he's doing what he's doing. All you know is you.

Once you start making subtle shifts like this in your communication with a man – and speaking truly from the heart – I know you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the closeness it creates between the two of you.

To learn more ways to make a lasting connection with a man through his heart, subscribe to Rori’s free e-newsletter here: Rori will teach you specific words and body language to help you share your feelings effectively without blame. You’ll learn how to get closer to a man and create the relationship you want while staying true to you.