The benefits of hiring your own Coach. Pitfalls Women fall into making it in Todays World. Oprah~

The coaching profession today is exploding…. Some coaches are certified and some aren’t. Some specialize in a specific area of life, i.e. business, relationships, money, spirituality, and some just take a general overview of your whole life. There have been articles; television shows that talk of life make-overs; Oprah has her own stable of coaches (some of whom appear on the cover the National Inquirer!) How can you find out more about what’s possible with a coach and why it might be important to you living your best life?

This article will answer that question with many compelling reasons to begin a coaching relationship. But first, let’s look at the 7 pitfalls that people (women specifically) can fall into trying to make it in today’s world. As you read them, take each of them to heart--enter into the feelings and thoughts that accompany each one---try it on and see what you notice arising in you.

The Masculine Model
This is the One of the Boys perspective. Things get delegated from the top down with no collaboration, just supporting the status quo. We’ve all experienced it. In order to get credibility or respect we will follow the rules and subjugate our authentic selves to fit in. Wanting to be in the ‘club’ is natural, but wearing a mask has a cost--our individuality and uniqueness.

The Martyr
Are you a Superwoman? Do you do it all, impressing everyone with your super competency, becoming indispensable? Well the end result I’ve seen from being this way is becoming a Martyr. Overworking yourself, because only you can do it perfectly, only leads to exhaustion and a feeling of resentment towards others, who never appreciate you enough. Righteousness with lots of judging others will drain your body and soul, making you dependent on the recognition from outside yourself.

The Victim
Do you feel like you have no voice? No power? That you’ve tried over and over but nothing ever changes, so you give up all your sense of choice? You have no recourse, nothing will ever turn out for you, everyone is against you and you just shut down to get by. By not taking any responsibility--it’s always someone else’s fault--you remain innocent but the price is helplessness. Hard to create any dreams from here.

Someday My Prince will Come
Many women have been taught that they will be rescued, so why take on anything themselves? Someone else has their answers and will sweep into their lives (one day) and take care of things--there’s no need to take action. My ‘real’ life will begin when I meet the right partner; take the right workshop; find the right job. In this scenario you become seduced by a myth that the answers aren’t within you. It can seem like an easy road, a free ride. Unfortunately you stay stuck as you wait…and wait….and wait.

Sugar and Spice
Be the good girl. Do what your mother always did. Don’t rock the boat. Don’t create confrontation. Make sure everyone else is comfortable. Always bring sugar--which means ‘don’t be your real self’! We are all humans and have upsets, but the good girl can never share hers. This is a lonely perspective, where you will never be truly known. Perhaps it will seem like there is peace, but it is only a façade. It surprises many how these ‘gremlin’ voices can be disguised as sweet Pollyannas!

GO GO GO Velocity Jane!
Never stop moving! Always be busy because your value lies fully in what you produce. Talk fast, multi-task, as Nike says: Just do it. Live in the myth that you are controlling time. The problem here is that you never can rest or listen to your own inner voice. How could you ever hear it when you’re agitated, restless and distracted? When you’re disconnected from your authentic heart, how real is your life?

Burned Out
This is the result of not making changes when you know they’re called for. Giving beyond what is reasonable as a human being, you lose your vitality, your spark and your clarity for what matters. Did you have a vision or a dream? Is it lost? That feeling of fatigue in your bones won’t go away and neither will the emptiness in your heart. Emotionally, you run the gamut from numb to being triggered by everything--tears or rage can erupt at any moment. When the price is this high, it’s clearly time to seek new strategies for living your best life!

Want to leave these unworkable strategies for life behind? Ready to create your fulfilling life? Let’s take a look at this thing called Coaching and the ways it can empower you to living your True Life. While you, as the client, are always in charge of your agenda and focus, your coach can assist you in becoming the Sovereign of your world.

Without conscious awareness of who you are, what you value and what are the hidden jewels of your heart, it’s very difficult to create your most meaningful life. The big job of coaching is all about fulfillment--what will bring you alive the most; finding authentic self-expression, joy and balance.

Here are some of the compelling reasons to hire a coach and create a powerful alliance to deepen your experience of life and move forward to living your dreams.

1. Creating Clarity
Life is certainly rich and we have, in our time, millions of opportunities and choices to make. But if you’re not clear on which ones are truly aligned with who you are, chances are they won’t bring you the satisfaction you want. Coaching is all about clarifying---your innate values, your vision, your goals. When you do this you discover not just what you want, but what you don’t want. Many people live their lives tolerating so much of what they have already. When you let go of these things and create a solid foundation, life becomes more rich and satisfying--you experience a lot more harmony when your choices line up with who you are.

2. Living in Abundance,

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