Contacting the G-spot during intercourse is essential for optimizing a woman's sexual pleasure.

Here’s one scenario that works for me: During sexual intercourse, as soon as I get close to the point-of-no-return (ejaculation inevitability), I withdraw my penis from my lover’s vagina preventing the possibility of an unwanted male ejaculation. I position myself between my partner’s open thighs and proceed to stimulate her manually. I alternate with clitoral and G-spot massage asking for feedback from her as to how she is feeling, and what would please her. Though I am still aroused from intercourse, this is my chance to relax into my arousal, to get centered and to let go of any fatigue or unnecessary tension that I may have unconsciously created in my own body during the pelvic thrusting phase of our lovemaking. Remember that accomplished male lovers seldom seek a release just because they are aroused. Arousal does not demand release! I proceed to pleasure her with conscious loving touches. After a few minutes, once the danger of an unwanted ejaculation has passed for me, I ask permission (very important) to re-enter her. With her permission granted, this cycle may be repeated again and again.

As I alternate between intercourse and G-spot massage, the sexual energy has time
to heighten to a fever pitch. Of course, my first priority is always to shower my partner with love and affection and to see to it that she is fully satisfied. This strategy works well for both of us. She gets to receive as many sexual thrills as she can let in, and I get to feel successful and deeply fulfilled knowing that I have pleased her. Like a lot of conscious men, my biggest turn-on is my partner’s emerging passion. Ironically, a woman’s greatest opportunity to satisfy a man in sex is in teaching him to successfully fulfill her.

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