To The Men Who Lied, Cheated And Dumped Me … Thank You!


Things I'm grateful for from past Bad Relationships.

I know it sounds odd to thank someone for lying, cheating and breaking up with you, but it's exactly what I needed to do for myself. Over the years I've learned a lot about myself from my experiences with men. 

I learned:
• I don't need to be in a relationship to be happy (but it's nice just the same)
• I can support myself
• I can take care of things on my own (even when I don't particularly want to)
• Good sex doesn't mean you're in a good relationship
• To trust my instincts vs. doing the right thing (like getting married because I was pregnant, or because the date had already been set)
• Where I live isn't nearly as important as who I'm living with
• To let go of trying to meet the expectations of others
• You can't change anyone but yourself
• If he doesn't love me for who I am, he never will
• No amount of twisting myself into a pretzel will change who I am at my core
• Being dumped doesn't say anything about what kind of person I am
• Not every man that expresses interest is looking for a relationship
• Men will lie to get lucky
• Good girl friends are as important as a good marriage
• When he tells you "It's not you", it's not
• Dealing with the right guys past is worth it
• Being a parent, step-parent, grandparent is awesome
• I won't die if I have to spend a holiday, birthday, or weekend alone
• Some friends are for life, and some for a year (or two)
• To never give up on my dreams

These are just a few examples of all the things I've learned because of the men who lied, cheated and dumped me over the years. Some of these I may have learned without them, but I'm certain that some of these lessons are indelibly etched in me because of them. So, the next time you encounter one of these men, remember all that the experience taught you, and be grateful for it!

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