Deepen Your Relationship: Come Home To You


Can spending time alone make your relationship STRONGER?

I spent last week at a Woman's Retreat that was completely focused on self-discovery and introspection. For 6 days I meditated, looked inward at my feelings and beliefs about myself, and took in the sights, sounds and smells of the ocean and nearby evergreens. It was during this time that I realized how truly blessed I am.

I've known for some time that my life is blessed, but it's so easy to take that for granted. I have an amazing husband, a sister, son and stepdaughter I love dearly and four wonderful grandchildren. Not to mention countless friends. What I often forget is that I also have a solid support system within myself.

When I returned, Chuck was heading off to the airport for another business trip back East. In the past, I would often feel neglected and abandoned by his seemingly constant travel. Left to my own devices, that little voice inside me would suddenly grow quite loud and scream, "See, there he goes again! And you thought this man really loved you? That you were so important? Ha!"

The truth of the matter is: Yes, he does love me. Yes, I am very important to him! Yes, he is very important to me! Time spent at the retreat and coming home to myself has reminded me about real love and caring.

I've been reminded that I don't need to rely on my husband to bring me joy and happiness, even though his presence does just that. I've also been reminded that I can not only survive, but also thrive on my own. I've been reminded how much I appreciate the time that we do have together and what a precious gift that it is.

Because he travels so often, I can't afford to take for granted a single moment of our time together; something I think far too many married couples do. When we are together, every second counts. I will never get that time back. Why would I want to waste it worrying about whether or not his dirty socks made it into the clothes hamper?

Take some time to cherish what you have, within and around you!

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