If Your Wife Isn't Having Sex With You, The First Place To Look Is Yourself

Recently, when I was shopping I came across a notepad with a very cute saying on it. "All I want is world peace and a pedicure." Is this too ambitious? Perhaps all your girlfriend wants is for you to stop yelling and give her a foot massage?

All jokes aside, how do you expect to have a great sexual relationship when all you do is fight? Sometimes, men — and in all fairness, women — like to breakup just to make-up, because the make-up sex is so good. But if you're like most men, what will make you happiest in the long term is a relationship in which you "make love and not war."

Is relationship drama ruining your sex life? Do you feel like your sex life is non-existent? If this is the case, there may be something that you aren't understanding about your woman. Correction: Maybe you're missing something — not just about your woman, but all women.

Chances are, she doesn't want to have sex with you if she's truly annoyed with you. Sometimes she may give in, sometimes she may even want to, but most of the time she doesn't want to let you in again until you've made things better.

My advice to you is simple: Realize that great sex starts with the mind. Do whatever you have to in order to make sure your partner isn't frustrated, upset, or angry with you. Turn your wrongs into rights. Don't be so overeager.

When you apologize, your partner will need time to process and let go of her negative emotions. This doesn't always happen automatically. You may have to prove yourself and allow some time for her desire to build. If you don't push it, she'll want you more.