Out With The Old & In With The New

Love, Heartbreak

It's time to break up with your ex and finally step into your true heart's desire!

We’ve all heard the saying, “Out with the old and in with the new,” and when it comes to love it couldn’t be more beneficial. There is an exchange of energy that occurs with every person we connect with, and when we are intimate with someone that energetic exchange becomes even deeper.

When we hold onto the past, it's as if we have ropes of energy holding us back and keeping us from moving forward toward our desired goal. When we do not release our exes, it's as if we are in a tug-of-war with the past. This is true whether or not we are “carrying a torch” for someone.

If you have decided that you truly want to Bring In Your Beloved™ then it is imperative that you clean house and release your exes for good. One of the reasons people find it difficult to release an ex is because they are holding onto negative emotions from an old relationship. Whether it is anger, sadness, hurt or even betrayal, holding onto these old emotions can keep you from creating the type of relationship you really want.

Another reason that people find it difficult to move on from an ex is because they are still holding onto hope for that person. They end up consumed with thoughts like: “Maybe they’ll change their mind and come back. Maybe it really was meant to be.” Carrying the torch of hope can keep you energetically attached and unable to move forward. This ultimately delays the learning and growth you need to be available and ready for your true soul partner.

The real question here is, "If you could have exactly the ideal relationship you've always dreamed of with someone you have not even met yet, would you still continue to carry a torch for your ex? Or would you move forward to actually experience the love that you desire?" To choose the latter, you must take action to create it. The best course of action is to cut all ties to your ex and release the hope of reconciliation. Can't Let Go? 3 Steps to Bury the Past and Move On to Better

Orna once told an ex, “Lose my phone number and forget my name, we are done.” Today, she is friendly with this man. Friendly means that when they bump into each other, it is cordial. If there is something to communicate between them, it gets done, and they are currently friends on Facebook. This happened AFTER a very long period of absolutely zero contact. When she released him and moved on, she meant it with every fiber of her being.

Breaking these energetic and emotional ties is the best way to release the old and create space to bring in the new. We’d like to share a great tool you can do on your own to break these energetic ties. There is an old saying “People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.” Looking at the reason people come into your life will help you cut the cords. We call this looking for the Golden Nugget. 10 Secrets Guaranteed To Help You Move The H*ll On From Your Ex

The Golden Nugget is the ‘reason’ that person came into your life. When you look for the learning in your failed relationships, you allow yourself to grow into a better relationship the next time around. The Golden Nugget is that piece of learning that only that person could give you so you can grow. Look past any hurt or loss and dig deep into what you are grateful for from the experience of having had the relationship.

You can start by writing them a letter sharing all the ways you are grateful for them having been in your life. This is a letter you will never send. It is an exercise for you to uncover that Golden Nugget. Remember that your ex is an EX for a reason. If it was “meant to be,” you would be together and not apart. So accept what is and move on. Never, ever settle! When we say, "Don't settle," we mean it. Do not settle for less than your True Heart's Desire. The challenge is that many of us attach details to that desire that is not at all from your heart, but actually from your head.

Orna was hung-up on a married man for many years. At the time, she believed she "loved" him. She only loved him equal to the amount that she loved herself which is why today we put the word "love" in quotes. When she raised the level at which she valued herself and loved herself completely is when Matthew (who had been in her periphery for over a year) called her to connect.

Matthew was always chasing the unavailable woman. The summer before he and Orna connected, he dated a woman who was constantly finding something "wrong" with him. When he finally told her, "There's nothing wrong with me, I am who I am," and walked away from his old story of chasing love, he did some more inner work around Values and less than two weeks later at the same networking meeting he had been attending for over a year with Orna, he saw her in a whole new light and reached out to her to connect one-on-one.

The love that you desire is not attached to anyone outside of you. Your ex does not hold your only chance for love. Until you change something inside of you, the outside will respond exactly as it has for your entire dating and relationship life. When we say, "Don't settle" we mean it, but not in the way most people imagine that we do. Release all the details of who, when, and how. Now, from that place create a vision of your ideal relationship. How will it function? How will you feel? How will your Beloved respond to you?

Include everything that you could ever want to have in this ideal scenario. Do not be "realistic." Indulge your creative imagination. Once you have this vision, lock it into your subconscious by writing it out in detail. Write out an ideal scene by answering this question: What evidence do you need that will let you know you are with your Beloved?

From this moment forward, whenever thoughts of your ex come to mind, read this ideal scene, indulge yourself with thoughts of what is to be with this unknown person. By letting go of the energetic ties of the past and by envisioning your ideal relationship, you create the space for something new, maybe even something you’ve never experienced before, to come you're your life. It is time to step into your true heart’s desire. Believe it is possible for you! And so it is.

Break Up With Your Ex Day is February 13. Find out more.