The 7 Stages Of Mastering Being Human

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Life is hard, but these 7 steps make the journey so much easier!

During our human journey, relationships between us and the rest of the world constantly change yet there are significant gateways almost all of us go through. These are what I call the “Seven Stages of Human Mastery.” There are variations on the theme and timing of each stage for all of us. Still, these are the common signposts that guides a soul’s journey towards self realization.

1. Wounded In Transition

You are born and being born is hard. You are transported from the light-filled ethereal realm to the rugged ground of the earth plane. This world is a bizarre, loud, unyielding and penetrating one--like a cold blade. Being born inevitably means being wounded. You are not alone in this shared history though most of the time it feels the opposite. No matter how wise and loving your caretakers are, they cannot shield a soul from this rough transition. In most cases, out of their innocence, they unknowingly become causes of the wound.

2. Building The Shell

You learn to protect yourself from the world being separated energetically and physically. Life’s innate wisdom realizes that to survive this earth existence you need armors, fences and boundaries. The alternative is to bear every whim of the world—its thoughts, feelings, ecstasies and hysteria—as your own. It’d be too overwhelming, too soon. The shell gives you room to breathe and a chance to solidify your sense of self.

3. Resisting The Shell

As useful as it is, at one point your armor gets in the way of life’s inherent desire to expand and grow. You won't be aware of this until your self grows to the extent that the protection feels constricting. Despite its safety, you realized that you will never fully experience the magnificent wonders this earth life has to offer by guarding yourself so tightly. Breaking the shell feels too scary.

4. The Armor Thinning

You grapple with fear. You examine your wounds. You try to differentiate real danger from your inner demons. Little by little, you become braver. You gather your courage and venture out of your cover from time to time. One day you find your armor starting to miraculously thin. You feel a sense of freedom like never before. Slowly your heart expands and your intuition sharpens. 

5. The Heart Opening

The world and its delicate beauty touch you everywhere you turn. You are affected by anything and everything. You feel their joy and pain, their affection and sadness. A glimpse of sunset can make you cry in gratitude. A look in a child’s eyes sends your heart soaring. Compassion pours out from you spontaneously to all beings. The world becomes so intimate that you could hardly bear it. Life is heartbreaking and overwhelming but you’ve crossed a threshold of no return. You are driven by love not fear.

6. Finding The Ground

Amid the churning world and the undulating emotional landscape you find what is eternal and unchanging. You discover that at the core of your existence, there is timeless spaciousness awaiting. It is the bottomless ground that holds every phenomenon-- the eye of the storm that is forever calm. You realize that this is the real source of your strength, creativity and wisdom. You are vulnerable yet invisible, fragile yet enduring.

7. True Self Emerging

The illusive boundary between you and the rest of the world falls away. You see the self in every fellow man as well as the stars, oceans and blades of grass. Your self fills every space from the molecules in your body to the far corners of the universe. You feel at home no matter where you are. Because you are the world and the world is you.

No matter how uncomfortable your journey makes you feel, know that you are a master of human life at each stage. You don't go through heartache and confusion by mistake. The intelligent design of your life allows you to have the full experience of being human. Your worth doesn't depend on where you are in this journey-- there is no rush. And as always, be compassionate to yourself.

What questions do you have on life, love, success, and spirituality? Shoot me a message on Facebook or write on my wall. I source my answers from both intellect and heart, as well as my intuitive sense of what you need at the moment. But be warned: the answer that will move you most quickly towards liberation is often not the answer you think you want.

Natasha Che is a personal growth teacher and writer based in Washington DC. She writes about relationship, career, spirituality and creative process on natashache.com, where you can sign up to receive monthly inspiration. Natasha is working on a memoir titled Wizardry: One Woman's Quest for Meaning, Mission, and Magic.

This article was originally published at natashache.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.