PSA: The Clit Is Like The Head Of The Penis

I want to share this as a way of helping men to understand the importance of the clitoris: The clit is analogous to the glans, or head, of the penis.  The head is, on most men, the most sensitive part of the cock.

Gentlemen, imagine that you're getting a hand job or blow job that never touches the head of your cock.  It would feel good, but would it be completely satisfying?  Would it be difficult to come without the head getting some attention?  Would you even be able to get there at all?

Imagining this will give you some understanding of how most women feel about intercourse:  It feels good, but it doesn't give us all the stimulation we need to orgasm. (Only about 20% of women can orgasm from vaginal penetration alone.)

So please don't feel upset if we want a little something extra, whether that's oral sex or playing with ourselves during sex or even the use of a toy.  It's nothing personal and it doesn't mean that you're less of a man, or a bad lover.  It has nothing to do with the size of your penis or how long you fuck us.

If you want to be our hero, give our clits some love.  And know that they are all very different, so don't assume that what your last lover liked will be pleasing to your current lover.  Ask your partner what she likes and truly listen so that you can both get the benefit of her orgasm.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.