Music is a great couples counselor.
There are times when we find solace in the most unexpected places. What music teaches us about love, life, and relationships may at times be profound. From sultry to practical, these songs hold beneficial advice for those in relationships!
1. Say by John Mayer
Take all of your wasted honor
Every little past frustration
Take all of your so-called problems,
Better put 'em in quotations
Say what you need to say …
Even if your hands are shaking
And your faith is broken
Even as the eyes are closing
Do it with a heart wide open …
True to life, these lyrics are the epitome of sage advice for couples. You find it difficult to say what's on your mind and in your heart. At times, you hold onto everything until it crushes you. So say what you mean and mean what you say. But say what you mean with tact because words, once uttered, can't be undone.
2. Breakeven by The Script
Her best days will be some of my worst
She finally met a man that's gonna put her first
While I'm wide awake she's no trouble sleeping
'Cause when a heart breaks no it don't breakeven ... even ... no
What am I supposed to do when the best part of me was always you,
And what am I supposed to say when I'm all choked up and you're ok
I'm falling to pieces, yeah,
I'm falling to pieces …
Amazingly real in its description of heartache, when relationships end, sometimes we are suddenly caught in a whirlwind of emotions to which we all respond differently. Some of us bounce back rather quickly, much to the surprise of everyone; while some of us never seem to get over the "one who got away." We're left wondering and playing the mental "what if" games that taunt us, resulting in Facebook stalking, weight fluctuations, sleep deprivation, and other unhealthy choices. That is until we come to realize that maybe it was all for the best.
3. I Can't Make You Love Me by Bonnie Raitt
'Cause I can't make you love me
If you don't
You can't make your heart feel
Somethin' it won't
Here in the dark
In these final hours
I will lay down my heart
And I'll feel the power
But you won’t, no you won't ...
There are those who stay in relationships knowing that the guy they share their bed with doesn't love them. He's cold. He's distant; he uses your bed when it pleases him to do so. He loves you and leaves you. You know this, but when you share your bed with him all reason fades away. Doubt goes asunder and for mere minutes when he is inside of you, you can quake in his arms. There you can pretend that because he is with you, you are in his heart. You fool yourself. You see the indecision, you see the hesitation behind his words. There is no loyalty, but you succumb to the pleasure he presents, the half-life he is willing to give you.
4. Halo by Beyonce
It's like I've been awakened
Every rule I had you breakin'
It's the risk that I'm taking
I ain't never gonna shut you out! ...
As the song suggests, you are always reminded of the one who comes along and breaks down the carefully guarded walls you've constructed. You've been hurt, but alas, so has he. You realize this and recognize that part of embracing love and life is embracing the fear that drives you.
5. Teenage Dream by Katy Perry
You think I'm pretty
Without any makeup on
You think I'm funny
When I tell the punchline wrong
I know you get me
So I let my walls come down, down ...
The subtle seductive lyrics remind us that we need a lover with whom we can just be ourselves — one who will appreciate every side of us. From silly to sensual, we should want a partner who can make us feel desired even when we aren't dolled up, or when we veer outside the norm society dictates for us.
6. For The First Time by The Script
Trying to make it work but man these times are hard
But we're gonna start by
Drinking our cheap bottles of wine,
Sit talking up all night,
Saying things we haven't for a while
A while, yeah
We're smiling but we're close to tears,
Even after all these years,
We just now got the feeling that we're meeting for the first time ...
It's easy to get caught up in the day-to-day grind that we call life. But, how many of us make time for our friends and lovers? Over time, we become too familiar with one another. It seems there's nothing new or exciting to share, so we don't. We forget to ask questions, to talk to one another, to connect and truly share our lives with our partners. This song is a testament to staying committed to your partner in their time of need. It reminds us not to abandon one another when the shit hits the fan. It's at the worst possible times that we must show vulnerability with our partners. We must share our fears, our triumphs ... in hopes of moving forward.
7. How To Save A Life by The Fray
Let him know that you know best
Cause after all you do know best
Try to slip past his defense
Without granting innocence
Lay down a list of what is wrong
The things you've told him all along
And pray to God, he hears you
And pray to God, he hears you
Where did I go wrong, I lost a friend
Somewhere along in the bitterness
And I would have stayed up with you all night
Had I known how to save a life
Too many times we get caught up in who is right or wrong in the relationship. This song forces us to re-examine what works and what doesn't work in the relationship. If it's not right, if it can't be fixed, move on. If the relationship is capable of being salvaged, then forget who is right. Move past the indifference you've taken on to shield yourself from the heartache and move forward together.
8. Like You'll Never See Me Again by Alicia Keys
So every time you hold me
Hold me like this is the last time
Every time you kiss me
Kiss me like you'll never see me again
Every time you touch me
Touch me like this is the last time
Promise that you'll love me
Love me like you'll never see me again
These lyrics remind listeners not to take love for granted, assuming that it will always be there. The only sure thing we know about life is that nothing, or no one, lasts forever. Appreciating the little things — the small gestures in your relationship — can go a long way to making it fulfilling.
Although love and reason rarely share company, let the advice enable you to see what you already have. So the next time you're in need of relationship advice, crank up the radio or your iPod. Besides, it's an affordable alternative to therapy and may help you see that your relationship is worth saving!
*All lyrics found on AZLyrics.com and LyricsFreak.com.