4 Ways To Survive Your First Date With A Swinger Couple

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Have a first date with a swinger couple? Follow these steps for success.

You, together with your partner, have been communicating with a swinger couple by e-mail for several weeks. You've even traded pictures and spoken by telephone more than once. All of you have decided that it's time to take it to the next level. It's time for all of you to get together and meet to see if you hit it off.

Until this moment you have imagined what such a meeting would be like. You may have even exchanged some mild flirtation with your new friends during dinner. What is their bedroom like? Do they have any toys or do they prefer to experiment without toys? How will the sex unfold once things get started?

Perhaps the girls will gently kiss each other and slowly remove each others' clothes as the guys watch from the side. As things begin to heat up between the girls, the guys can no longer merely be observers as they join in on the fun. You may even be curious if the swinger couple are into BDSM with Fifty Shades Of Grey being so popular. Whatever the case, here are some ways to break the ice and get things going with minimal awkwardness.

1. Get photos in advance.
The pictures of the couple you are meeting definitely help you to recognize them when you meet them. How else are you going to know who to approach in a public place like a restaurant or club? You and your new friends should pick a place to meet that you are both comfortable with.

2. Pick out your outfit ahead of time.
Be sure to plan ahead on what you'll be wearing and be sure to let your new friends know so that they can easily identify you when you meet.

What should you wear? It's not such an easy question to answer since "something sexy" is the only thing you can think of. Just about anything can be made to look sexy, but you don't want to walk into a club looking frumpy in baggy clothes.

But on the other hand, you don't want to go to the extreme and show up in nothing but a thong and stripper boots either. If you are attending a costume party, however, dressing as a stripper might be perfectly fin. You may even get compliments on your outfit. Keep in mind though that this is a first date. As such, you might want to consider wearing evening wear.

3. When in doubt, wear black ... and avoid hosiery.
You can never go wrong with selecting a black outfit. Black is always in style for both men and women. And ladies can never go wrong by showing a little cleavage and bare shoulder. This is very enticing. You can still wear your stripper boots and thong, if you wish, but it's best to wait until later in the evening to reveal your sexy attire.

It's best, of course, not to wear pantyhose, since hose can be very aggravating to take off. Thigh highs or garters are a much better choice. Another option is to wear that sexy teddy you recently got from Victoria's Secret underneath your black evening wear. Always be sure to dress to make an impression on any first date.

Men, don't forget that you should dress to look sexy as well. Just because your partner looks like a million bucks doesn't mean that you get a license to slouch. You should dress up just as much as your partner does. You should appear as though you really go together. Black slacks always work well with a neatly tucked-in dark button-up shirt.

If you want to add a little sex appeal to your ensemble, you can always just leave the top two or three buttons of your shirt undone. Don't make the mistake of wearing tennis shoes with your outfit. Wearing the wrong kind of shoes can get you the wrong kind of attention. As long as you think "sexy first date," you will be fine.

4. Plan your safe words and secret signals ahead in case things go awry.
The last thing you need to consider is your secret language. Be sure you and the couple you are meeting have your signals down in case you think something might not be right. You don't want to risk any breakdown in communications.

Some couples use a safe word like "lobster". Be sure to discuss with your partner what your swinging options are so that you can know up front whether they are soft or full or closed or open.

You also want to know up front what you and your partner should do if you both decide that you aren't attracted to the couple you are meeting. You and your partner are in this together and you should both know what the boundaries are to make sure you both have a good time.

Go ahead and turn those fantasies into realities. You have everything you need to make it happen and have fun on your swinger date.

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