How To Stay Calm When It Feels Like Literally Everything Is Falling Apart

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How To Stay Calm When It Feels Like Everything Is Falling Apart

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The other night I was sitting in the bathtub, soaking away the effects of the day. Suddenly I started crying. Not just crying, sobbing. I didn’t know what was going on.

And then it hit me. The world is in chaos and I was going through some serious major life changes and out of nowhere it was all catching up to me. I wasn’t used to things catching up to me so it made me very uncomfortable.

When I am uncomfortable I will figure out whatever it is I need to do to be comfortable so I was determined to push past this.

So, what did I do? Let me tell you!

I let the tears flow.

Recently I have been having some arm problems and I have been seeing a rolfer to help me. She told me that she thought my arm problems were emotional, that the stress I was under was showing up in my body.

She encouraged me to let those emotions go. To really sit with the emotions when they crop up and let my body deal with them.

So, I did. I sat in the bathtub and cried. And cried. And cried. I took many deep breaths in between sobs. I allowed my body to let go of what I was feeling

As I cried, my mind kept wandering off to ways that I could fix what was causing the overwhelm but I would pull it back. I knew that now was the time for feeling my feelings and that later I would try to fix it.

An hour later I emerged from the bathtub, exhausted. I went to bed and woke up in the morning, feeling great, ready to deal with my overwhelm.

If you are feeling overwhelmed by life, try doing what I did. Sit with your feelings. Let your body process the emotions and let them go. When you do this, you are setting yourself up for overcoming overwhelm for a life of success.

I identified what was causing me to feel overwhelmed.

A big part of overwhelm is not knowing what is causing it. If we don’t know what is overwhelming us it is impossible to deal with it.

So, the day after my crying jag, I made a list of the things that might be overwhelming me. I was in the middle of a big move, away from my kids. I had developed a frozen shoulder over the past year. I was going to be on the road a lot over the next week doing presentations. My dog was habitually pooping in my son’s room at night. My boyfriend was going through a really hard time in his personal life.

It was amazing how freeing it was to realize all of the things that I had going on in my life. By doing so, I didn’t feel ashamed of my overwhelm, ashamed that I was weak and couldn’t handle my life. Seeing all of the things that I had going on made me realize that my overwhelm was merited.

And that made me motivated to deal with it.

I made a plan.

I believe that to get through anything you need to have a plan. Without a plan, you are going to approach things haphazardly and any success will be purely luck.

So, for me, I had to look at the things that were overwhelming me and figure out how to attack them.

As to my move – I made a list of what needed to be done. I made a plan to travel to see my kids regularly. I vowed to cut down the number of presentations that I was doing. I would try feeding my dog earlier in the evening so that she could do her business before I went to bed. And I wouldn’t take my boyfriend’s problems on myself – they were his problems, not mine.

Making a plan for dealing with my overwhelm helped calm me down pretty quick. Knowing that I had a plan gave me the freedom to take some deep breaths and get ready to deal.

I started taking care of myself.

One thing that I realized when I was taking inventory of my overwhelm was that I had stopped taking care of myself. I was so busy that I wasn’t walking everyday like I usually did. I was travelling a lot so I wasn’t eating well. My sleep was off and I was drinking more than usual.

A big part of being strong enough to deal with overwhelm is taking care of yourself. Keeping your body and mind healthy gives you the tools that you need for overcoming overwhelm for a life of success.

So, take care of yourself. What are the best things that you can do for yourself right now?

I asked for help.

We women believe that we can do it all by ourselves. That no one else can do it as well as we can and that if we ask for help we are admitting that we just can’t do it ourselves.

Well, let me tell you that I know, from personal experience, that that just isn’t true. We all need help and if we can ask for it then we can do anything.

For me, I knew that I really needed to get my arm taken care of because having an injured wing made everything much worse. So, I started seeing a rolfer, an acupuncturist and a chiropractor. These practitioners are not only helping me with my arm but they are helping me deal with all of the emotions that are causing the overwhelm.

I have also asked my boyfriend to help me manage things around the house and have hired a contractor to do what he can’t. I am parceling out my presentations to people I have trained to do them, people who really can do as good a job as me. And I recently got some CBD oil to help me sleep.

When I sleep the world is just a better place.

So, ask for help if you need it. Don’t go it alone. There are people out there who can and want to help you so go for it.

When it feels like literally everything is falling apart, you can just slide into bed and hope that it will pass or you can step up and take care of yourself and ride through this chaos like a warrior queen.

By letting yourself truly feel your emotions, identifying what is overwhelming you, making a plan, taking care of yourself and asking for help you can get through these difficult times intact and not only take care of yourself but be strong for others!

This is your life to live. Take the reins and live it well. You can do it!

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Mitzi Bockmann is a NYC based, certified life and love coach. Let her help you find, and keep, love in this crazy world in which we live. Email her to get started!