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5 Tips For Splitting Parenting Duties With Your Spouse

5 Tips For Splitting Parenting Duties with Your Spouse [EXPERT]

2. Provide tangible ways dad can help. Most wives can attest to this. Saying "I'm thirsty" isn't usually enough to have him magically appear with a glass of water in his hand. "I need some help tonight. Can you get up at 11 and feed the baby? I've prepared a bottle in the fridge and left a cup on the counter to warm it in" is more likely to yield the results you're looking for. Providing specific tasks can increase the likelihood that your needs get met. Why Your Parents' Divorce Doesn't Predict Your Future

3. Talk about needs before they arise. No one wants to hear what they're doing wrong when it's too late to correct course. Rather than waiting till the midnight feed to ask for help, discuss a plan of action during the day. Work with your spouse to develop a routine that works for everyone.

4. Let him do it his way. Sometimes you have to take what you can get and be happy. So what if he doesn't change the baby exactly the way you do. If the baby's safe and the diaper is secure, that's what matters. The less you micromanage, the more willing he'll be to help out. How To Choose Your Family's Nanny

5. Call in backup. If all else fails, you'll need to call in the reinforcements. If your partner isn't stepping it up, rely on your momtourage. Ask friends and family to help out with meal prep, laundry and even watching the baby for a few hours so you can take a nap and get some solid sleep. If you're able, consider hiring a nanny. If you don’t take care of yourself, you're not going to be able to take care of those who depend on you most.

While getting your spouse to share parenting responsibilities can be a challenge, if you present your case for help clearly, you'll likely get the help and sleep you need.

Michelle LaRowe is the editor-in-chief of has been helping families and nannies find each other since 1994. LaRowe is also the author of Nanny to the Rescue!, Working Mom's 411 and A Mom's Ultimate Book of Lists. She was the 2004 International Nanny Association Nanny of the Year.


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