Show Them What They’re Missing: 5 Ways to Make an Ex Jealous


All is fair in love and war.

Breakups can cause all sorts of emotions to rise up and flow to the surface. Sometimes, we are devastated, unable to function by the loss of our love. Other times, we are relieved, happy that we’ve dodged the bullet that is our ex-boyfriend and his super crazy mother. And then there are times we are vindictive, hell bent on making our ex regret their decision.

For those of us who fall into the latter category, making an ex jealous can seem a bit juvenile. But, who cares…I know you are, but what am I. Or, whatever. The fact remains that sometimes a little payback is necessary; remember, all is fair in love and war (collectively known as “romance”).

So, if you find yourself wanting to make an ex jealous and show them what they are missing, consider doing the following:

Make Yourself Be Happy
Being happy may be the largest gun you have in your arsenal of revenge. This isn't to say that you can’t be upset by the breakup, use a few tissues, or lay in bed for a few extra hours, but after the grief period is over, you need to leave your house with a smile on your face. Even if you aren’t actually happy, pretending to be can be beneficial. It plays into the whole “fake it till you make it” game and it shows your ex that he or she isn’t life-ending. This makes them believe that you have moved on from them (and you very well might have), ultimately causing them to rethink their decision.

Be Nice When You See Them
Some people break up with their girlfriend or boyfriend and never see them again, except for the occasional glance onto their Facebook page. But, they don’t actually see them in person. Then there are those who see their ex more than they see their family. This most often happens when people who live in the same area or are in the same social circles break up. So, if you fit into these categories and happen to see your ex, be nice to them. Don’t bring up your relationship, what happened between you, or assign fault. Instead, make small talk – talk about your work or the weather or how the Yankees came from behind last night to beat the Sox. But, always be civil (civil, not flirtatious). Niceties will make your ex think that they’re easy to get over, which lays a sucker punch right where it hurts: their ego.

Get Yourself Out There
Actions always speak much louder than words: if you want your ex to think you are getting over them, you best get yourself out there. That means you should attend parties, work functions, neighborhood activities, or whatever else gets you out of the house and meeting new people. This is particularly important if you and your ex have friends in common: if you are out meeting a new guy or a new girl, they will find out about it. And, odds are extremely high, they will be overcome with jealousy.

Use Social Media to Your Advantage
Even if your ex did the dumping, human nature suggests that they’ll want to know what you are up to. The best way, and most discreet way, for them to do this is to look at your social media pages. Thus, assume that they will be looking and be cognizant of what you post. Do post pictures of yourself out with your friends having fun, don’t post pictures of yourself reading the works of Sylvia Plath and crying.

Leave Them Hanging
You’ll know that Operation: Revenge has been successful if your ex suddenly tries to contact you. But, if they call you, email you, or send you a text message, don’t respond right away. Responding with too much immediacy hints at desperation, which leads them to believe they have the upper hand. Rather, let them hang for a while. Don’t call them back, don’t email them, and don’t text them for a day or two. Take control of the situation by letting your inaction tell them that you are not sitting around, hoping and praying that they will reconcile. And, when you do finally contact them back, be sure to keep it casual. Writing “Hey, nice to hear from you. How have you been?” is good.  Writing “OMG Hi! It’s sooooo good to hear from you. I was just looking at your Facebook page and licking the screen!” is not.

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