Sex Education: What We Didn't Learn in School


Real sex education is taught in the bedroom, not the classroom.

Ah, sex education: those two weeks in fifth grade when we all squirmed, gaped, and tried so hard to quiet the giggles that came out every time our teacher uttered the word penis or period (quick, think of something sad!). We learned about the birds, the bees, and the many STD’s. But, as much as sex education claims to educate, the truth is it really did anything but.

Now, it's still a vital part of cirriculum: if nothing else, it helps teach adolescents to make smart choices. Yet, it doesn't educate us on sex's true essence. 

The reason for this is simple: true sex education involves more than learning about hormones and watching after school specials where Sally gets the herps from sleeping with the entire high school football team. Instead, sex education is about things that can’t be taught in school…and certainly shouldn’t be taught in the fifth grade.

I’m not talking about positions or technique; rather, I’m talking about the following tiny, but ever important, tidbits:

Men and women view sex differently: Men and women have always had, and probably always will have, inherently different views when it comes to sex. Men tend to view it more casually, while women are more likely to tie it with emotions. Perhaps because of this, men are more likely to sleep with a woman they don’t really know that well, whereas women are much more likely to only sleep with someone they care about. And, as every single made for TV movie has taught us, women equate sex with love and committment much more often than men. 

Sexual affairs aren’t usually about sex: When a husband or a wife finds themselves reserving a room at Hal’s Happy Endings, the local hotel on route 96 that books by the hour, people assume that it is purely for reasons that are sexual. Yet, the truth remains that only a very small percent of people have affairs because of sexual dissatisfaction. Far more often they have them because of emotional dissatisfaction.

There is a double standard: Women have long pointed out the double standard that exists between the genders. Though younger men may pass this off as women being paranoid (and older men may pass it off as them having the “Vapors”), the facts support the feminine argument: in a 2013 survey reported by Psychology Today, more than a quarter of men said they would lose respect for a woman who engages in casual sex but would not lose respect for a man who does the same. These men may be in the minority, but they still prove that a double standard exists somewhat.

Orgasms aren’t a sure thing: When it comes to orgasms, women definitely get the short end of the stick (perhaps that is the problem). In fact, over three quarters of women have trouble reaching orgasm through intercourse alone. This doesn’t mean that they can’t ever climax, it just means it might require an extra hand or two.

You might need to spice things up: Any kind of sex is usually enough to keep men happy: “Sex is boring,” said no guy ever. Yet, it still needs to be spiced up every now and then. It kind of goes without saying that men enjoy experimenting with different sexual techniques and positions. But, what not everybody realizes is that women enjoy it too. Not only do they enjoy experimenting with men, but they also enjoy it with women: as much as 60 percent of women are attracted to other women. This may be bad news for us guys – not only do we have to compete with other men, but we also have to compete with the girls – but, it’s also appealing. Face it: the fantasy practically writes itself. 

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