Saying goodbye

Saying goodbye

Several years ago I was in a very sad and lonely place.  I had just broken up with someone I thought I was meant to marry.  We spent many months after the break up wondering what went wrong and neither of us could figure it out.  We believed we were meant to be together, however, it didn't work out that way.

Within a short space of time, he had met and married someone he believed he was in love with.  It felt like a stab in the heart, yet I wished him well and had the opportunity to say goodbye with dignity and tell him I was glad he was finally happy.

I made the decision to find out as much as I could about love and relationships because I really didn't want this to happen again.  I knew that if I didn't invest in myself and learn all I could, I was likely to repeat the same mistake and I wasn't sure I had the strength to see it through.

Once I made the decision, information seemed to arrive at my feet.  I had the choice to read the material, books and study the courses I was being offered. Or turn my back on it all feeling it was too much of a challenge and walk away.  This option would bring me back to square one, so I dug in my heels and heart and turned every page, made lots of notes and talked to others about what I was now learning.  

I found that while I spoke to friends and family about the information I had been absorbing, I heard from them that this information was not anything they had ever heard before.  I knew I had to share this information with as many people as I could.

Several years later and I am now about to embark on another journey of creating training materials for professionals who work with young people.  The knowledge I have learned is important to share with young people because they deserve to know this before they embark on their love journeys.

I said goodbye to the person who I thought was the love of my life and during the period of growth that followed, I learned how to love myself and began to enjoy my life once more.  The amazing thing about all of this as far as I am concerned, is that I met someone who truly understands, values, respects and loves me.  The relationship I am now in is so loving and peaceful that I am truly grateful for the love that I thought I had lost.  

What I now understand is that love is never lost and every experience in life is an opportunity to learn and grow.