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In Love & Therapy: Why Chemistry Matters

How to meet people is a question that is often asked, but what we really want to know is how to meet people we like, connect with, enjoy, and feel good around. Does it really boil down to chemistry? We talk to many people throughout our day ... at the morning coffee shop, on a school playground, at the office ... but who would you like to spend your free time with? Who makes you laugh? Who do you have chemistry with?

Literally, chemistry is the study of how matter interacts. When we talk about chemistry with another person, we commonly refer to the love/attraction type of chemistry. Interacting positively is a type of chemistry we all strive to reach. It is so powerful, it not only improves your mood, but some research has shown that by releasing a certain chemical, phenylethylamine (PEA), chemistry with others may even make you happy and help you resist depressive feelings.

Adolescents often use the word awkward to decribe certain encounters. Really, so many encounters are! A hint of sarcasm that was taken seriously, a lapse in conversation where you say something you regret just to fill the silence, or you've accidentally exposed too much and experience "the TMI brush-off." 5 Reasons To Celebrate Your Single Status

But when chemistry is good, it's really good.  Time flies, you don’t remember why but you know you laughed ... hard. You are comfortable and you feel validated. You are valued, not judged ... similar to finding the right therapist, a relationship that also requires good chemistry. And when it's good, it's really good.

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This article was originally published at LYNNLCSW. Reprinted with permission from the author.