Breaking Up, Facebook Style

Breaking Up, Facebook Style

There’s no
denying it. Breaking up is oh-so hard to do, especially in today’s 24-hour
techno-savvy world of Facebook, Twitter, and post-breakup booty calls arranged
via sex-ting. If you’re nursing a broken heart, be sure to avoid these
emotionally costly social networking mistakes…

Heartbreak Mistake #1: Do NOT stay
connected to your ex on Facebook and Twitter

Yes, social
networking has made keeping up with friends both near and far incredibly easy
and convenient. What it’s also done is make healing a broken heart
excruciatingly difficult.  Whereas once
upon a time, we risked getting caught if we drove by our ex’s house or dialed
his digits and hung up when he answered, in today’s techno-savvy world we can
cyberstalk our ex in our pajamas, from the safe glow of our computer screens,
at 3 a.m. If you find yourself lurking on your ex’s social networking pages,
keeping tabs on who he’s talking to and what he’s doing, you may need an  intervention from your Boohoo Crew.  Seriously, call one of them immediately and
have them come over to exorcise your ex from your online life.

Heartbreak Mistake #2: Do NOT blog
about the breakup on Facebook and Twitter

Okay, so
maybe you’ve removed your ex from your face book friends. Now you’re in a new
phase of post-breakup rage, a.k.a. ranting about your ex online to anyone who
will listen/read. Here’s the problem with doing this.  Breakup karma is a bitch.  It will come around and smack you upside the
head. Maybe not today, maybe not this year, but one day in the not-too-distant
future you will be dating somebody new. 
Things will be going really well. 
And then he’ll discover your online rants about your ex, label you a
psycho, and delete you from HIS Facebook friends. Do you really want to earn a
reputation as the scary chick who goes off on her ex online? I didn’t think so.

Heartbreak Mistake #3: Do NOT expect
your social network to take sides

are, you’ve got a few hundred or a few thousand cyber friends.  Let’s be clear.  Cyber friends are not the same as real
friends.  Do not ask your cyber friends
to take sides in your breakup. It’s childish, unreasonable, and makes you look
incredibly petty.  Instead, reach out to
your Boohoo Crew. They’re allowed to take your side.  In fact, invite them over for a night of ex
bashing, blaming, and shaming in the comfort of your own home. You’re allowed
to wallow. Just don’t do it online to your faux friends.

Heartbreak Mistake #4:  Do NOT engage in e-venge

Hell hath
no fury like a woman scorned. And a scorned woman with 24/7 access to the
internet? There’s no telling the damage she can do! But before you send your ex
a computer virus, hack into his email and delete everything, or IM his boss
with inappropriate inuendos, stop. Step away from the keyboard. And remember
that while revenge fantasies are sweet, revenge realities can come with serious
consequences. Just don’t do it.

Heartbreak Mistake #5:  Don’t forget to password protect yourself

After a
breakup, it’s essential to your online and offline security to change all of
your passwords. You don’t want an angry ex lurking in your email, logging into
your online banking, and wreaking havoc with your cyber security. Right here
and now, password protect yourself by updating all your online passwords.
You’ll thank me later!

So there
you have it. The top 5 costly social networking mistakes following heartbreak.
If you’re nursing a broken heart, be sure to protect your online security,
maintain your dignity, and disconnect from your ex as much as possible.

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