3 Crucial Steps To Discover Your True Self Behind The Mask


To be at peace with ourselves, we need to know ourselves. -C. Matthews

Aware or not, we live many lives. I'm not referring to reincarnation, but to the evolutionary track of our lives—through infancy, childhood, adolescence, college, career, marriage, parenting, grandparenting, and often widowhood.

Each stage brings laughters and tears, but also brings new personal preferences that leave us often questioning. Who am I now? You may fill many roles, but are you the roles you fill? I think not. Do you want to know yourself at a deeper level?

1. Carve out some time when you can be alone and take a leisurely trip back in time. Trace your life back to your earliest memory and then forward to 6, 7, 10, 16, 21, 25, 30, 35, 40, and onward. What excited you at each age? What were your dreams at each stage? What happened to that child with a 360 degree energy level? Is some of that joy of living still with you, or did it get squelched in order to adhere to a set of rules that may have been rigid and suppressive?

2. Journal into these memories, bringing that child forward to make friends with her or him again. It's not too late to find the child within you that you once were, no matter your age. This child holds the key to knowing yourself and living a more spirited life. Granted, if your childhood was more than a little dysfunctional you may need professional help to heal the negative and move past it in order to get to the good stuff.

3. Above all, accept yourself as you are now. It doesn't mean you have to like everything, but it is in accepting yourself that you can let go of some of the shoulds and oughts. Accepting what is allows you to relax, to pause, to take a deep breath, and take a step forward in a new direction. What you'll discover will be wonderful; what you discover will be yourself.

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This article was originally published at Laura B. Young. Reprinted with permission from the author.