Love or Fear: What is Really Happening in Your Relationship?

Love, Self

How can you intimately relate to someone if you are losing yourself in your relationship? Where R U?

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Please read this material and watch the video for a deeper understanding of how to create a positive result.

I love you so much!”
“I love you too?”
These are the sweetest words for our ears.
Love is an amazing state in which your mind, body and emotions are 100% aligned with what you desire. It is a state when you are so overflowing with feeling good that you unconditionally share it with others, no strings attached.

How do you express Love?
Through worship and adoration?
Using affectionate words to show your love?
Longing for being with him?

Do you worry about where they are and what they do? Are you giving and receiving pleasure? Are you feeling intense emotional bond and showing tender affection and compassion? Are you having a passionate feeling, romantic desire, and sexual attraction? Are you eliciting deep interest and enthusiasm in a person you love?

Which words match the feeling you actually experience?
Do you often say (or think):
“I worry about us. Do you really love me? I am afraid you may leave me.”
“I am concerned about his work (health, finances, and friends)”
“I am not sure if I like his hobbies. He has to change them in order to accommodate our relationship.”
“I need him! I cannot live without him”
“You are my sunshine! My day is empty without you!”

Even though we use these words to talk about love, they DO NOT express LOVE. They express fear, attachment, and neediness that often create a major break point in many relationships. Just recently I have been coaching a young beautiful woman who fell in love and was deeply loved by your partner. He was the one who asked her for a committed relationship from which he escaped a few months later. As we looked into her love story jointly, she realized that she altered her independent, strong personality once they became “serious” and moved in together. Her major issue was insecurity and need to know he is planning to marry her soon. She lost herself to her fears and then lost him.

Being raised by worrying parents that teach us about life by using scary stories about “what may be happening if”, we grow up being fearful of what is ahead. We try to anticipate possible problems and protect ourselves from the future by creating more stories about “what may be happening if” that make us worry even more. Fear is an ancient powerful emotion. It helps you recognize the danger and survive in the moments of threat. Experiencing and recognizing fear is an important function of the nervous system without which your survival may not be possible. Being in fear releases powerful inner resources that help you endure challenges. These resources include hormones and chemicals that are detrimental to your body in the large quantities during quiet, more balanced times of your life.

This is a video article. The short video below will give you a deep understanding of how your body works and how your feelings affect every relationship you create. Watch this video segment before finishing this article.

When you mistake love for attachment, need, possession, you start overreacting and creating hormonal over-production that leads to dis-balance, dis-ease, and addiction to inner chemicals that produce these emotional, mental and physical states. As with any addiction, you begin focusing on getting more and more of these chemicals into your blood stream. For example, to produce more adrenalin that you crave, you start thinking about dangerous situations or provoke dramatic relationship conflicts, eventually becoming an adrenalin junkie or a drama queen.

How can you intimately relate to someone in your present, when you are stuck in the past or worrying about an unknown future? You need to see, acknowledge and address the fears you experience as real before you can continue your interactions in the present moment.

Understanding what you are afraid of is the first step in this process. Admitting and transparently sharing your truth with your partner is the key step in opening the doors of mutual acceptance and cooperation, so together you can dismantle the fearful story that aggravates your relationship. Sharing your own fear and uncertainty creates a level of honesty, transparency and intimate communication, but there is a difference between recognizing your role in creating walls between you and acknowledging that your partner may not ready for what you are looking for and stop demanding it. If your world does not feel right, Let go of the need to fix your partner and look deeper to find the vibration of Love and Oneness within.

We already know the unity in fear and we call it mass hysteria. We already know the unity in fight and we call it a civil war. We also know unity in eating green foods and we call it vegetarianism. It is time for you to give up fear and allow the time and space for oneness and exquisite creations of your love to grow.

My work is dedicated to help awaken your awareness and help you find yourself and then find your match in every area of your life. Your partner (or his absence) is a result of the love life you’ve chosen based on your previous experiences.

Does your relationship feel like love of like fear and limitation?
Do you play your role or alter yourself to avoid confrontations?
Are you getting the love you want?

Instead of being stuck in a horror story, you can make choices that make your feel Love, Loved, Loving today. Your life is your business, but sometimes you need a good business manager to help you make sense of it.

Are you willing to give up fear, so you can take in love?

I can help you make this positive change. When you find yourself, you find the love you want. You find your TRUE MATCH.

I am passionate about empowering women to find yourself and then find a relationship they desire. Email me at or all me at 847 414 3730 for your FREE CONSULTATION. Learn how my 6 STEP coaching programs will help you step out of the vicious circle of losing yourself and start loving yourself 100% and creating relationships that MATCH YOU 100%.

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