How to Avoid Living Not-Self Life


Give yourself permission to be different and make a conscious choice to be at peace with that.

We, humans, are deeply social and are specifically oriented on living and interacting with other people. As we interact with others, we regularly hear and often identify their ambitions as our own, whether we resonate with them or not.

Do you ever blurt things out of pressure, instead of speaking your truth and clarity?
Do you always know when it is your time for action feels?
Do you say “yes” to things and people that you are not interested in spending time with?

We have been living in our three-dimensional world for thousands of years. We started as simple patterns of energy and information and then evolved into more complex beings with multifaceted systems of energy and information. We now connect with the planets and each other at the level we still do not fully recognize. Today we are able to relate to ourselves as energetic beings more and more, letting this new experience unfold in front of our eyes. We witness tsunamis of love and hurricanes of destruction at every level, both personal and transpersonal that we produce. We are able to recognize that our every thought, every belief, every attitude delivers our energetic signature to the bigger picture of life.

It is important to know who you are and embrace all parts of you so you can role model the way you want to interact to others from the clarity and certainty of your uniqueness while letting others deal with their goals, objectives and timing.
It is up to you to stop watching and listening to the old program installed in your early years by some of the struggling individuals in your life. If you stop judging and blaming, you can use your energy to accept and live with what is real for you in the moment, change the situation or relationship, or find what is ideal for you. Give yourself permission to be different and make a conscious choice to be at peace with that.

It takes courage and practice not to be ashamed, feel guilty or try to cover up whatever makes you unique. The more you notice yourself being unique and different, and acknowledge that these are your gifts, the more secure, stable, and strong you will grow. This is just a suggestion, a new thought that you may want to incorporate into your thinking of yourself. If you come back to this thought a number of times, it will become your second nature.

You are the “right” person for your life, having the “right” experiences that were meant for you. You are “spot on” in your life journey. Accept your way of being and relate to yourself and create your life from your knowing.

Notice when you experience the pressures to perform, the need to be noticed, the drive to talk even if you do not know what to say. Allow these pressures to be what they are, just the pressures. Know that you always have a choice in how you respond to the pressure: to let it flow or to identify with it and try to fix it.

It often takes more courage to let the pressure pass through your body then taking responsibility to carry them, but the choice is always yours. When you acknowledge your true essential nature, you will start releasing your old conditioned ways of being (like adopting other people ambitions, dysfunctional relationships and struggling with un-satisfying projects) and be YOU, say what YOU want to say, and find your voice of creation.

My life work is about helping people find their voice and communicate from inner guidance, innovation and personal power. No one can give you the power to create love. It is your birthright, an innate authority given to you already. Use your light and beauty to illuminate your relationships with love and encourage your partner to share creative force with you, so you can enjoy Being You in the relationship with someone who is authentic and loving you just the way you are.

I am passionate about empowering women to find yourself and then find a relationship they desire. Email me at or all me at 847 414 3730 for your FREE CONSULTATION. It will help you step out of the vicious circle of living NOT-SELF life and start financing relationships that are important to YOU.

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