Why Aching For Commitment Is The Reason Why You Aren't Getting It


It is actually very easy to inspire a man to commit: be the woman he can't afford to lose.

It's very validating to me when women in my growing community report how more lively their dating lives nowadays are after practicing my tools of treating dating as a "training ground" instead of a "hunting ground." And of being more process-oriented (feminine energy) instead of goal-oriented (masculine energy).

Recently one of them shared this exciting development on how a guy she is dating claimed her only after four dates. 

"We left to go to his friends BBQ get together.  He introduced me to all of his friends and their family. I was surprised and enjoyed meeting everyone even though I can't remember all of their names.  One of the oldies commented that I will be quizzed on who's who, jokingly.  Everyone was very nice and I felt welcomed.

I didnt think much of it until his friend's sister's daughter asked him if I was his gf and he said yes.  Wow!  It works, Katarina :).

Around 8 pm, we all went to the park to watch the fireworks.  Also, Matt's sister was there to meet us. He introduced me to his sis who seems to know so much about me.  She's really pretty and nice. More of their friends friends arrived and I was introduced as Matt's gf :).

It was the first time he held my hands and our first kiss. I had a great time. I closed my eharmony account simply because I just want to focus on us now that we are exclusive.  Thanks Kat :).  All I did was focus on myself, no expectations, and repeated to myself over and over that I'm a goddess and the most desirable woman alive whether he pick me or another match.

Still surprised that he picked me!"

These women get the relationship they want not by closing themselves off.  They get it through being highly irresistible and inviting.  Through enjoying life and the dating process.

When you are in motion, you'll keep moving. That's why women with "standards" are usually single, not dating and not very happy about it and they are trapped in those low vibrations that don't attract guys. And they begin to say that there are no good men around anymore (simply because guys usually don't think of commitment after 2 weeks or 2 months of knowing them).

After working with hundreds of women and see how they transform themselves before my very eyes, it just proves it to me time and again that the energy of yearning for a commitment is a repellent. It's a low form of energy coming from a deep sense of lack and is separated from the peacefulness of the present. You might call it standards or boundaries or whatever fancy name you have in mind, it's just not attractive period.

My method is so radical and counter-intuitive but works like a charm.  It's not about erecting boundaries but in fact to allow love flow into your life so you can raise your vibrations and attract more of the same. The simple truth is a man can't make you a second best without your permission.

I teach women how to seduce a man with their feminine mystique.

Assume you are a goddess and you become one.

The intuitive understanding of what drives a man and emotional freedom are what set you apart from the rest of the female population out there.  That what makes you a high-value woman he will want to commit to without you having to nudge him to do so (in fact he will rush to claim you because he knows if he doesn't some other guy will).  I teach how to inspire men to commit without bringing up the talk, in fact without doing much of anything at all 'cause she's basking in her feminine essence.

A high value woman doesn't need to do that. A high-value woman impels a man to commit because she's too good to lose.

When we talk about boundaries or standards, they often come from our woundedness.  It's the deviant little child in us recoiling in fear and anger.  It is often our perception of disrespect and non-love instead of the actual act of disrespect and non-loving.   It's true we train others how we want to be treated, yet at the same time there is no reason to act all scared and over protective of yourself.

Let things unfold and your response to situations should be fluid moment to moment.  Be more spontaneous than sticking hard to a set of rules carved in stone and see how every situation is actually a chance for you to look inside, tweak your perspectives, choose your response and grow from the experience.

Ready to be the Enchantress?  Here is the path to take.....

Women often can't allow a process to unfold because their fear takes over and their thoughts are ahead of them.  They're in the masculine energy of "getting the job done."  That's the biggest reason why men aren't committing.  They are not motivated by the agenda-driven attitude.  It is very unromantic too. (Learn more by signing up for my new Leaning Back and Cultivating Feminine Mystique Workshop)

To get what you want from a man, you need to know how he is wired: what makes him tick and what ticks him off.  What makes his attraction bulb to set off and how to keep it shine on.  A lot of times women assume a guy is emotionally unavailable while in fact their anxiety transforms him into an emotionally unavailable man.

My method heavily focuses on self and forces you to work on you instead of shifting the blame on the men.  You are 100% responsible for the state of relationship you are in.  Once you assume that responsibility you can begin to turn it around.

I figured it all out through trial and error.  Now I'm sharing all the secrets I have learned in my upcoming book: Feminine Magnetism: The Art of Being A Woman That Enraptures A Man's Heart (stay tuned by visiting my blog) and my recurring group coaching: the Journey Inward, The First Steps Toward Feminine Magnetism™ Mastery.