Why To Discipline But Never Punish Your Kids

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Discover tips and techniques to assist your family. Wonder how to teach without wounding the spirit?

Suppose your child has left Legos all over the living room again!  Can you picture the chaos? Can you feel yourself become frustrated immediately?  Are your shoulders  instantly stiffening just thinking about the scene and the consequences?  And this was just pretend.  What happens when you are right in the midst of inappropriate behavior?

Ponder What Discipline Really Means

Discipline comes from the root word Disciple and means, “training to act in accordance with rules, instruction or learning, a regimen that develops or improves skills.”  This puts parents, teachers, coaches and other adults who are in a position of authority in the position of a leader and teacher who wants to train and encourage.

Discipline is accomplished when a child is shown how to behave in a more acceptable way.

Realize What Punishment Means

When a child hears “you did this… You did not do what you were told” he automatically feels defensive, angry and resentful. It sounds like an accusation instead of a request. For more ways to use words in a positive way go to http://www.askauntieartichoke.com and claim an ebook called Use Encouraging Words.

Punishment does not have to be physical.It is damaging to the spirit of the child to have emotional abuse or punishment.

To punish someone is to treat them harshly and to inflict a penalty for some offense or fault, and it becomes child abuse when the adult is deliberately injuring a child in physical, verbal or sexual ways. 

One never learns from punishment, except to punish others.  A friend’s 4-year-old child once said after receiving a spanking for an infraction, “I can’t wait till I’m big enough to hit someone.”  Needless to say, that was the last time they used corporal punishment.

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