2009 went out with a bang: a full Blue moon, with a partial lunar
eclipse, on the last night of the first decade of the 21st century
(here in the
For the past week, the energy of 2010 has
been building in intensity. In trying to
put my finger on what this energy feels like, here’s what I came up with: it feels like a supernova.
The type of supernova I’m referring to is
this: when a giant, aging star stops
creating enough energy to sustain itself in the old way, it condenses or
collapses into itself and creates a black hole. Out of that black hole comes enough new energy that the former star
explodes out to several hundred times its previous size, creating more energy
than our Sun will emit in its entire life span.
I have spent this first week of 2010 drawing
in my energy, developing focus and clarity on how I want to share myself with
my clients and in my personal life. I’ve
let go of some old ways of being, and I am ready to shine.
As we draw into ourselves, we can turn
inward and focus our energy, much like the star does when it’s creating the
black hole. Black holes tend to have a
negative connotation to some, but they are powerful sources of universal
energy. I invite you to use this time to draw into yourself and explore the
pure essence of your nature. What are
your unique gifts? How do you want to
express them? What would that mean for
your business? How do you want to be in
relationship with your beloved? If
you’re not in a relationship, what is the energy you want to share with a new
partner?
Once
we get clear on how we want to expend our energy, we can let it explode out
into the universe. From a business
standpoint, many people don’t want to focus themselves so clearly that they
exclude certain demographics. However,
marketing and PR experts all agree: niche marketing is the way to go. People do business with people they know and like. We are drawn to people who are most like us. What hobbies do you have? How do you like to spend your free time? Wouldn’t it be great if all your clients were
interested in those things too? This is
also true for our romantic relationships. They say opposites attract, but deep down it is our similarities that
draw us together. Opposites only attract
when it comes to sexual polarity.
Romantically, I’ve learned of a powerful
tool that will help you focus and get clear about what’s important to you. It’s called the Three Absolute Yes’s. It’s adapted from the Hendricks Institute, where
a friend and colleague attended coaching school.
1. Identify three qualities or traits that
absolutely must be present in your partner.
2. Write them down and hang them somewhere
prominent where you’ll see them every day.
3. Say NO to anyone who does not possess
these three qualities. That means stop
the booty calls and the casual dating. It also means that if you’re with someone who doesn’t possess your three
Absolute Yes’s, it’s time to end the relationship (unless your partner is
working toward possessing and expressing them).
Once you are clear and focused on what must
be present in your partner, the Universe will begin sending you people who
match your request. Usually, the first
match isn’t quite right. It will give
you an opportunity to become even clearer about what you want, and it will give
you the opportunity to say NO to someone who’s not a perfect match. Once the Universe realizes that you’re
serious, you’ll get what you expect.
Turn inward, gathering your energy into your
core essence. Let go of what no longer serves you. Once you’re focused, turn that brilliant
energy back out into the world and watch what magnetizes to you. In 2010, be a supernova.