Managing Resistance

Love, Self

Did you ever notice how the anxiety about
doing something is always worse than the actual event?  We spend so much time worrying about things,
most of which are completely beyond our control.  Imagine being able to harness all that energy
and use it to move toward something positive.

Anxiety and worry are forms of resistance,
and resistance tells us we are experiencing fear.  There’s a saying, “What we resist
persists.”  It persists because we are
focusing our attention and energy on the thing we don’t want to happen.  The Universe doesn’t hear negatives; it
merely sends us a match to the thing we’re vibrating about the most.  Wherever we focus our attention and energy,
we will receive a vibrational match to that, whether it’s positive or negative. 

Practically speaking, understanding this can
take us a long way toward shifting our realities into more pleasant
experiences.  I’ve developed a process to
help apply this concept into action.


Identify the fear behind the resistance.  Look at the situation clearly and logically
from as many vantage points as possible. 
Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?  How likely is that?  And how would I move forward from there?”


Acknowledge what you can change and the
things over which you have no control. 
This step is critical to releasing the energy of resistance; we take on
responsibilities that don’t belong to us while shirking our responsibilities to
ourselves.  Reversing that pattern enables
you to stand in your power.


Enlist support for yourself.  We’re not meant to do this alone.  Call on a friend or family member who can support
you unconditionally, or hire a coach or a therapist.


Make a plan for moving forward and take
authentic action, even if it’s baby steps. 
Maybe you want to leave your partner but can’t figure out how to
realistically do it.  Figure out one
thing you can do to make the situation more bearable in the meantime.  Speak up for yourself, perhaps by insisting
s/he take on more responsibility around the house. 


Take time for yourself every single
day.  You deserve at least an hour of
alone time each day.  Use it to exercise,
journal, meditate, or read something inspiring. 
This time alone will help you recharge your emotional and physical
batteries, and it sends a strong signal to the Universe that you believe you
deserve to be treated well. 


Ask for help in releasing the
resistance.  Call on your angels, guides,
higher self, the Universe, God, or anyone else who might be interested in
helping.  Say, “Please (insert their
name), help me to release this resistance. 
Take this fear from me and help me find peace in my heart.  Thank you!” 
Repeat as needed.

Practicing these steps regularly will free
up tremendous amounts of energy in your life. 
As you release resistance, you make room for new energy.  The more you practice these steps, the less
resistance you’ll experience and the more positive things you’ll attract into
your life.