6 Tips for Living Authentically

6 Tips for Living Authentically

Last week I had one of those moments when
the veils lifted and I was able to see, with crystal clarity, into my
future.  It played like a good soap
opera, with heartbreak and loss, success, redemption and great love.  I’m so grateful for my abilities, but
sometimes I need some time to adjust to what they allow me to see. 

By mid-week I was feeling a bit like Morgan
Freeman in The Bucket List. 
He notes that 97% of the people in the world would not want to know the
moment of their death.  He was in the
other 3% until he found out he had lung cancer. 
I understand what he meant, because it can be challenging to live in
each now moment when you want to hurry up and get to the end of the story.  Jumping ahead into the future is a type of
poison for the mind.  As I wrote in The
Yoga of Relationships, Lord Shiva, as Lord Blue Throat, drank all the poison
from the ocean of consciousness to save humanity.  I’ve been contemplating this for the past
couple of weeks, and as always, I’m amazed at how the Universe offers up opportunities
for me to delve deeper into my practice.

As a result of my contemplation of this myth
and my real life experiences, I’ve come up with some tools we can use to help
transform the poison in our lives into the sweetest nectar.  They are:


Open to Grace.  This is the
first principle of Anusara yoga.  Opening
to Grace invites something greater into our lives, whether you call it the
Universe, God, or anything else.  It
allows us to remember that we can trust in something greater than our own personality
and will, and it can offer great comfort.


Ground yourself.  Ground
yourself into the earth; connecting with nature is a great way to return to the
present moment.  When we don’t feel
grounded, we don’t feel safe.  And when
we don’t feel safe, we are unable to rise up and fly, either physically or


Be compassionate and gentle with
  This is a tall order for Americans.  Our society is so other-oriented, we’re
taught from the time we’re young children to strive to be our best and to
compete against others.  But if we don’t
rest, we burn out.  I have to constantly
remind myself to be gentler with myself. 
A contemplation to help with this is to ask yourself, “What am I not
giving myself credit for?” 


Remember:  life is about the journey, not the
  I remember, and then I forget, over and
over.  I just want it to be done some
days, but then I remember my belief that when we’re done, we’re dead.  I’m not ready to be dead, so I might as well
enjoy the journey.


BREATHE.  Forget this,
and the rest of it’s a moot point. 
J  Shallow,
rapid breathing is a sure sign you’re getting wound up about something.  It’s a sign that you’re drinking the poison
rather than transforming it to nectar. 
Breath is a powerful aid in this alchemical process. 


LOVE.  I’ve been
doing a lot of Soul Readings because of the special I’m running this month, and
I’ve been reminded repeatedly that no matter why we think we’re here and what
we think we’re here to do, we are all here to remember love.  We are here to love, to be loved, and to help
others return to love.  Above all, we are
here to remember how to love ourselves for being a unique spark of Divine
consciousness.  And that is the sweetest
nectar of all.