3 Signs You're In A Love-Hate Relationship

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So getting him to change his ways is secretly about regaining our own self-image. If we get him to like us, we think we'll feel confident again. Sadly, however, it's not only a lost cause because a leopard doesn't change his spots but when we put our self-worth in anyone's hands but our own, it will never be safe.

3. You're addicted to "wanting" a relationship. Yes, it is a real addiction just like drugs, alcohol or designer shoe shopping. You can become addicted to wanting a relationship. Therefore you subconsciously pick people who will never give you one and reject people you know want one from you!

After years of riding the relationship roller coaster with men, you've become addicted to the highs and lows. The safe, stable, ground seems boring and uninteresting to you. Unfortunately, real love does not feel like your riding Magic Mountain, so if you keep chasing the "wanting feeling, you'll never get to the real, good stuff.

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