Expert Tips To Navigate Online Dating Like A Pro


Social media is a great way, in the reverse, for you to check into what people really think.

I talked to Susan Winter, author of Allowing Magnificence: Living the Expanded Version of Your Life, about how social media and technlogly have affected the modern dating world.

Q: How can singles use social media and other technologies to help, not hurt, their chances for a relationship.

SW: I heard a really good commentary at the Massachusetts Women’s ConferenceRandi Zuckerberg gives online dating advice by saying that your online presence is your resume. The first thing to remember is, anything you type, any electronic medium is there forever.

Be very much aware that whatever you're bantering about on Facebook, whoever you're bashing or whatever you're saying, that is representing you in a way where not everyone gets the full context.

We don't always understand where the humor is. We don't always understand what someone is saying.

You have to be very aware that the medium has its limitations. At the same time, it has such an amazing reach.

Q: What does social media add to online dating?

SW: Social media is a great way, in the reverse, for you to check into what people really think.

You can watch their feeds: Do I like the way they think? Do I like the way they respond? Are they hot-headed? Are they dogmatic? Are they open-minded Are they generous?

Q: What are must-follow online dating protocols?

It’s important to meet right away and meet in a public place, and I always advise my girls not to get into long chats.

Don’t let guys wrangle you into, "Do you have any more photos of you in a bathing suit?" They’re not even going to want to meet you. If they’re going there, they’re not looking for anything serious. They’re testing the waters to see if they can get a booty call.

I have everyone cut those conversations off and make their online profile very clear. "I’m looking for this. I’m looking for that. Don’t send me a photo that is X-rated. I’m looking for a partner." Then, all of your conversations are in alignment with that.

The minute someone tries to go in another direction, you cut them off. My girls have all found great guys because of that training of staying on course.

The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interviewListen to the entire interview on: Intersections Match Talk Radio – Jasbina’s Lifestyle Show.  Jasbina Ahluwalia is an Indian American Attorney-turned-Entrepreneur, Relationship Expert, Radio Show Host  and Matchmaker/Dating Coach

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