How To Get A Boyfriend: Stop Trying!

How To Get A Boyfriend: Stop Trying!
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Love happens when you least expect it. So stop obsessing and start living.

4. Relax And Let Things Unfold Naturally

Instead of trying to control things to happen a certain way or resisting what "is," relax. This doesn't mean to not do anything. It simply means being clear on what you want, setting your intention, doing what you can to achieve it and then letting what is supposed to happen, happen. Finding a boyfriend the "natural" way simply means being clear on the qualities and traits you want in a partner, only dating guys who are right for you, responding instead of constantly initiating, and letting the universe bring you the man you're supposed to be with.

5. Be Your Best Self

Being your best self means letting go of excess baggage from past dates or broken relationship. It also means doing the inner work to transform unhealthy patterns so that you can be the best version of you. The guys you attract are based on where you're at in your life. When you do the inner work to become your best self, you attract higher quality guys who add to your life. Plus, you will have more options of men to choose from.

6. Be Open-Minded

Instead of holding tightly to what you think is true, consider other perspectives. If you tend to jump to conclusions, take a step back. Instead of making assumptions, ask questions to avoid miscommunication and to understand the deeper meaning behind what someone is saying. Everyone wants to feel like they're being heard, including men — and effective communication is necessary to a healthy relationship. If you're able to look for the truth in what a guy says, even if you see things differently, he will feel more comfortable in sharing his true thoughts with you. The more comfortable he feels, the more open he will be, which will ultimately lead to a meaningful connection.

7. Reframe Unhealthy Beliefs

Finish these statements: "Love is_______________." "Guys are_______________." "I am______________." Fill in as many answers as come to your mind, then examine all of your unhealthy responses (for example, love is hard; guys are afraid of commitment; I am not good enough) and replace them with positive responses that are as true or truer than your original response. The reason it's so important to reframe unhealthy beliefs is that they drive the results you get. Let's say your original belief was that guys are afraid of commitment. After reworking your opinion, you now believe that good men are open to commitment. In believing this, you'll attract more guys who are open to being in an exclusive relationship with you.

8. Love Yourself Completely

There are things you probably love about yourself and things you wish you could change about yourself. The good parts and self-perceived bad parts make up who you are. Instead of trying to hide these negative things, accept and embrace them. If you look closely at the parts you consider to be bad, you'll discover that in some way, they have served you well at times in your life. The more you love all of who you are, the more your future boyfriend will love you. He will treat you with the affection and respect you deserve.

Finally, Embrace Your Single Status

It's important to accept and embrace this stage of your life. Otherwise, you'll end up with the wrong men in short-term relationships.  When everyone else seems to have a boyfriend and you're still single, you might think, "What’s wrong with me?" The truth is: there's nothing wrong with you. It just isn't the right time yet. Live your single life happily and you will naturally get the boyfriend of your dreams. Believe and know that he is on his way. What will you do to focus on you?

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