Surprising Dating Advice That Gets Real Results

Surprising Dating Advice That Gets Results

Dating Advice #7: Be selective about who gets to go out with you
You are a prize. Instead of going out with just any man who asks you out, be selective. Only date men who are deserving of being with you. A man deserves to date you if he makes you a priority in his life, calls when he says he's going to, communicates in between the times you see each other, makes time to see you and treats you well.  A man doesn't deserve you if he only sees you when it's convenient for him, has you paying for most of your dates and doesn't do what he says. Being selective reinforces positive feelings and gives you better dating experiences.

Dating Advice #8: Cut ties early on
If you're looking for a long-term commitment and the guy you like says he isn't looking for anything serious, believe him. If you keep seeing him hoping that he'll change his mind, you'll waste precious time and regret that you didn't believe him. Walk away so that you can be available for a guy who is looking for the same kind of relationship as you are.    

Dating Advice #9: Use the 80/20 rule
Don't fall prey to a man who says what you want to hear, then behaves and acts differently. If you tend to take a man's words at face value and are constantly let down, stop believing what he says. Pay attention to his behaviors and actions and let them reveal his true intentions.  Adopt Pareto's Principle, the 80/20 rule. If a man is 80 percent talk and only 20 percent actions, let this guy go. If a man is 20 percent talk and 80 percent actions, he is a keeper. If you use the 80/20 rule in your dating life, you'll weed out the talkers and make room for the men who actually walk their talk.

Dating Advice #10: Let your feelings guide you
Overanalyzing every little thing makes it impossible to enjoy dating, have a meaningful connection, and make clear decisions. Relax your mind and notice how your body feels when you're on a date or have a decision to make. If your body feels open, expanded and light, you are feeling a strong connection, enjoying your date or should move forward with your decision. 

If your body feels tight, contracted and heavy, self consciousness is causing you to worry too much about what he thinks of you. This makes it hard to enjoy your date and build a positive connection. If you're trying to make a decision, don't move forward or wait for more information to gain clarity on what to do. Your feelings are the truest indicator of what to do when it comes to matters of the heart.       

Dating Advice #11: Keep your options open
If you've been seeing a guy you really like, don't assume you have an exclusive relationship. Leave your options open by keeping your online dating profile up and being available for other guys to ask you out. When a woman really likes a guy, she usually initiates "the talk" with him to see where their relationship is heading. Don't be like every other woman who is desperate to be in a relationship. 

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Instead, determine your reasons for wanting to be in a committed relationship with him. Then answer these relationship questions to determine if he really is the guy for you. Captivate him with your inner beauty, build a meaningful connection, and he will soon initiate the talk. If he loves being with you, he won't want to lose you to another guy.

Dating Advice #12: Get feedback
When dates that seem to go well don't work out with men you really like, you may wonder what happened. Instead of being left in the dark, ask these men for feedback on what you can do to improve as you move forward. As an experiment, contact a man you recently went out with and ask him what his perception of you has been and what you can do to improve yourself. Be open to hearing what he has to say and take action to make improvements. If you're open to experimenting even more, contact a few more men for feedback.   

Take Control of Your Dating Life 
You have the power to create the experience you’d like in your dating life. Putting these 12 nuggets of wisdom into practice will keep you feeling empowered and re-energized about dating. You will get asked out by great men, enjoy the dating process, and go from date to mate. Which suggestions will you start practicing?   

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